IUI sample nervousness

posted 2 months ago in TTC
  • poll: Were you nervous the doc gave your the wrong semen sample during IUI?



  • Post # 16
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee

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    @katie1293:  It’s the rude and dismissive way you phrased it that’s an “outrage.” OP was def not the only way who read your comment on this thread (and others) that way. Food for thought.

    Post # 17
    2910 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

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    @Cheekie0077:  agreed!  I go to a tiny clinic (one RE) and every staff member is a familiar face.  They still confirm name and birthday before every embryo transfer.  

    I do think it’s a valid concern, especially when they schedule more than one embryo transfer each day. But my son in the spitting image of my husband!

    Post # 21
    1117 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    @eviegreene:  I’ve done one IUI and two FET’s, and each time I had similar worries. As PP have said, it’s not healthy if such thoughts start to consume you – but I think it’s perfectly normal to have those kinds of thoughts (especially for someone going through fertility treatments which means you’ve likely gotten used to things going ‘wrong’ in this process). 

    that being said, these clinics take SO many precautions to be sure there is no mix up. Of course you do hear of the rare times it does happen, but it is so, so rare. These clinics have a very vested interest in being sure this kind of mix up does not happen! Best of luck to you, I hope this IUI works ❤️

    Post # 22
    346 posts
    Helper bee

    I can’t believe someone even mentioned you need to seek professional help!  How insensitive.  This is completely normal to worry about this as human error IS possible.  Just like it is possible to mix up a vial of blood. BUT the same labeling system happens in this case, sperm container gets labeled in front of you (a barcode and even a security alarm sticker in our clinic), and your name/husband name gets asked repeatedly throughout the process to ensure a mistake doesn’t happen.

    Post # 23
    9340 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @eviegreene:  and they may get your hair! Or a combo. Don’t get hung up on individual traits that you assume are dominant. My dark haired husband joked “how the heck did I end up with these blond haired blue eyed babies?!” Uh….hi I’m your wife have you not notice I have blond hair and blue eyes?? But my daughter looks just like him with my coloring. 

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    @latebloomerbee78:  the way it was phrased was insensitive but the mere suggestion of therapy isn’t. Fertility treatment is so stressful, talking to a therapist is a great idea. I wish I had done it. I actually scheduled a mental health visit for 2 weeks post partum before I was discharged from the hospital after my second kid – I knew I had trouble after my first and waited too long to talk to someone and didn’t want to make that mistake again. I chatted with the therapist and she said “you seem to be doing great but I’m glad you had this check up” and I agreed. 

    Post # 24
    3897 posts
    Honey bee

    I moved across the country and had to ship my embryos to my new doctor. I was totally freaked out about this and contemplated doing a DNA test if I got pregnant. My baby looked so much like his big brother and like us that I didn’t need to do this, but I definitely understand the fear. I also did an IUI, and there were several procedures and a “chain of custody” for the sample that put ny mind at ease. Good luck with your IUI!!!

    Post # 25
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I think your fear is completely valid. I would talk to the clinic about this and ask what they do to avoid this happening. Hopefully they have lots of checks and double checks! Maybe they can reassure you by showing what they do to prevent this from happening. I know medical mistakes can and do happen which is why there should be lots of checks and double checks involved. 

    Post # 26
    7935 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I agree that these instances are very, very rare, but they get a lot of publicity because it is a nightmare scenario for parents going through IUI. I agree that having the clinic dicuss their chain of custody for the samples will be helpful, and if the genetic testing will ease your mind (and isn’t a financial burden), then do that, too.

    As a PP mentioned, though, individual traits are never guaranteed (which I am sure you already know). I am on the shorter side, have dark hair and dark eyes – all of which are supposed to be dominant traits. I have three children and every one of them is blond, blue-eyed and quite tall. They’re all beautiful kids (to me), but you would never guess I was their mother.

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