Post # 1
The title pretty much says it all. Since my friends have found out I got engaged I have 100% been avoiding them. None of them are invited to the wedding and I really don’t know how to tell them!! I’m terrified of them bring it up/asking for details. We’re having a very small wedding (family only – 20 people total are invited). I don’t want to lose them as friend but our budget is just so tight!
Has anyone else had a similar issue? How did you handle it? Help!!
Post # 2
Why can’t you tell them the truth? You’d love to be able to have your friends at your wedding, but you can’t afford it, so you are having a family only affair. They might be sad, but I think most people understand money concerns.
Post # 3
Just tell them the truth. “We are on a very small budget so we are only inviting family”
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
You handle it being upfront and telling the truth; by avoiding your friends you may end up getting what you’re trying to avoid: lose those relationships.
Post # 5
I think you are more likely to lose friendships if you avoid them than to tell them the truth about your family only wedding.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I understand not wanting to have the conversation but what exactly is your plan? Play 007 until after the wedding? lol If these are your true friends they will certainly not flip out over your decision. Explain it to them the same way you explained it here. Simple.
Post # 7
Maybe you could explain to them that is a very small ceremony with family only, but tell them you’d love to have a bacholrette party with them?
I’m honetly only have 1 friend i’m for sure inviting to my wedding (just because we’ve been friends since we were super little)
My wedding is mostly family too and my friends get that i can’t have a big wedding because of budgeting.
Post # 8
If you can’t be upfront about an intimate, family only wedding, you won’t have any friends to worry about by the time your wedding date arrives.
Post # 9
Maybe when you tell them and they congratulate you, you can say “Yes we’re so excited. We are looking forward to a beautiful intimate wedding with our families”.
Post # 10
If you were inviting 300 people, maybe, but everyone will understand when they hear that you are having immediate family only. I don’t even think you need to justify it being about money. I’m sure they can figure it out.
Post # 11
People get it, they really do! “Because of financial reasons, we’re limiting our wedding to family only.” I’ve been told that, and it’s never hurt my feelings.