(Closed) I've been debating..

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do you think the movie Hostell could happen in real life?
    Yes : (8 votes)
    22 %
    No way : (11 votes)
    31 %
    I try not to think that way : (17 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @figgnewton:  Yup I am the same way. I try to control my paranoid thoughts by asking myself how likely it is to happen, and try to focus on the present. Sometimes I just have to tell my mind to SHUT UP basically.

    I’m an anxious person and thinking those types of thoughts just don’t help. I also try to avoid watching the news and reading certain publications that tend to post the worst of the worst, and that helps a bit too.

    You just have to learn to distract yourself. It isn’t easy and I slip up all the time.

    Logically there is no point in worrying about something that may never happen. It’s smart to worry about money and save for retirement… but it’s not smart to worry that you’ll be abducted and tortured. Just use common sense and take normal precautions like avoiding walking alone at night and locking your doors. Make yourself stop thinking those bad thoughts and it will help.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @figgnewton:  You just have to force yourself to think happy thoughts. I do the same thing sometimes but I’ve come to realize that only you can control your thoughts. I am pretty sure I have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder but I don’t want to take drugs so I am working on my coping mechanisms instead.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I worry about EVERYTHING, so I no longer let myself watch scary or horror movies that have human villans.  I’m fine with zombies, aliens, etc. since those are not very likely going to happen.  But anything with real people gets under my skin and ends up giving me nightmares.  Even if the movie looks good I’d rather save myself the worry and not watch.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Of course bad things happen in real life all the time, but you really can’t do much other than exhibit common sense (don’t walk in a dark alley by yourself, etc) and be mindful of those around you (remove yourself from a sketchy situation, etc).

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    This sounds like my mom.  She doesn’t enjoy life and she stays couped up in her house not enjoying anything and worries about me enjoying my everything.  I hope you can find ways out of this way of thinking if it start to impact your daily life/routine.

    Post # 10
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    3063 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Take self defense classes (or better yet, jiu jitsu), stay educated in current events, be self aware, carry protection (whether that’s a gun, taser, or mace is up to you). Building your self confidence and knowledge will help free you from your fears, but not be naive about dangers in the world. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best, as they say!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @canarydiamond:  I have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder but I don’t want to take drugs so I am working on my coping mechanisms instead.

    If you were ever open to a diagnostic interview, there’s non-medication options for anxiety that you could always try. Sounds like you are doing a good job dealing on your own, but therapists are good at helping with that kind of thing! Just find a psychologist, not a psychiatrist – psychologists do not prescribe medications, but are able to diagnose and treat in other fashions.

    OP, Hostel probably could happen in real life, but the key word is could since the probability is just so small. I’m not a highly anxious person but sometimes I do wonder about something bad happening (ie, a plane crash when I’m flying in bad weather). Does that make me stop flying? No! Just like you shouldn’t stop living your life because of a teensy possibility of something bad happening 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @MrsWrangler:  Thanks for the suggestion. I did see a counselor but I didn’t find it too helpful. I guess the next step would be to go talk to a psychologist. I will consider it since some days I feel REALLY anxious… but then other days are a lot better. I’ve been this way my whole life.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @canarydiamond:  Yea I’m not typically screaming “therapy!” on this website (and I’m not screaming it at you either!), but I worked in an anxiety clinic for two years before starting my PhD and I just saw a ton of improvement in QOL for people who were dedicated to overcoming their anxiety. We were a teaching clinic (students from university did our therapy under the supervision of licensed professionals) and I found it so interesting to watch the progression of both the patients and students.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @figgnewton:  You’re not the only one.  My mind runs a mile a minute as it already does, I can’t have it running images of creepy things like that!  lol

    I avoid horror movies like the plague.  Though, I have given Darling Husband one or two freebies throughout the year to watch his pick of scary movies.  It is usually on the weekends and he has to be around that weekend, too. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Thats the reason I refuse to watch any scary movie or end of the world movie.  Part of brain is like it’s a movie, don’t be an idio! The other part is like what if???  Ugh I hate it and avoid them all at all costs.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Of course these things happen and it’s horrible. I’m so glad you haven’t seen the real ones online. I was in shock. REAL PEOPLE KILLING REAL PEOPLE. I saw one recently and couldn’t  sleep for days. I don’t understand why people are so cruel. sucks 🙁

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