- 5 years ago
but I think I found a solution last night. A lot of the bees keep stating that you should have a discussion with SO to figure out a timeline. My SO kept toying with me (jokingly) about when it would happen. “Oh, it could be soon, it could not be.” And finally last night I sat down and told him, “It’s starting to drive me nuts. I need a solid timeline babe so I can focus on something entirely different instead of killing myself mentally about when it may happen.”
So he told me six months. Six months and he will start planning. I have no problem with this, itis actually quite perfect. I felt alot of relief at knowing that though. Like this huge weight was off my shoulders. Have ya’ll had that before after this talk?
I also told him to change the password to the website that I picked my ring from, so I am not tempted to snoop. I picked out 5 rings for him to choose from and put it on a wish list, he will pick and pay for it when he wants to.
I also told him: “I’ll tell you what I told the few people I’ve talk to about this, I’m happy right now. If you got down on one knee tomorrow I’d say yes even if it was sans ring. I’d be happy even if you waited another year or a bit more, because in the long run I have you. All the ring means is that we will eventually change our legal status.I’m not in any rush, but would say yes in a red hot minute because I realize I am a lucky girl. So take your time. When you feel ready, why you think the time is right you will take that step. I’m a patient girl.”
It felt very liberating and freeing. Ever since he commented about ring suggestions I’ve been on edge, but now I am a ton more relaxed. I think I realized that if I don’t stop and enjoy this time together, I’ll miss a ton of stuff now, important stuff.
Any bees have similar experiences?