(Closed) I’ve caught wedding fever!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know a proposal is at least 4 months away, but realistically, probably won’t be for another year or two. I’m fine with that (after a very angsty period!) but I still can’t stop daydreaming!

If you let me know the answer to this, I’m sure we could become rich giving out tips!

Post # 4
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9668 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think it’s great that you’re already getting ideas in your head about what you want, means less stress down the line! to chill out maybe spend time with friends, developing other hobbies, etc. I am not too sure, I can’t get wedding stuff out of my head either! I suggest at some point you do talk to your SO about where you guys sit with marriage, whether you are on the same page, just so you know a general idea of a timeline 🙂 You have been together so long, (and congrats on the new house!) that I think you probably will get engaged sometime soon 🙂

 

I have a different situation, but the wedding wait is probably similar. For me the engagement will be coming very soon but we won’t be getting married for at least 3-4 years, due to me having to finish my degree in a couple of years and wanting to live together for a year or two before getting married, but I can’t stop dreaming!

Post # 5
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not engaged yet, but I’ve pretty much planned almost everything (even so far as to two different weddings based on whether we decide on August or September). Granted we talk about it a lot but there is nothing wrong with planning. Waiting goes in phases- sometimes it’s relaxing, sometimes it’s stressful, sometimes I want to shake SO and be like just propooooooooose! 

anyway you aren’t alone, and being here gives me someplace to talk and plan without driving SO crazy with bringing it up every day

Post # 6
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5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I’ve been waiting about a year for a proposal and I find that wedding fever comes in waves 😉 I find that saving inspiration on my computer and finding some kind of hobby to pass the time helps. I hate the antsy stages of waiting, during those periods I try to blog about wedding stuff (or come on here) to avoid nagging my SO haha

Post # 7
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This sounds almost EXACTLY like my situation!!

Post # 8
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2755 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly, I would say at this point in the relationship you might want to have some kind of discussion with him on what you want for your future. It’s possible to have a great surprise proposal AND be 100% on the same page with one another that you want to get married. You could end up totally surprised to learn that he’s ready for marriage, too.

Post # 9
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689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Number one thing you need to do is talk to him. Tell him what you have been thinking about and that you do not need a proposal today. If he sees you guys at the alter someday then now he will know you are thinking about it. Set out time to have serious discussions (not during his down time!) to talk about important things such as finances (are you savers or spenders?), kids (how to raise them), and what you expect of each other. You don’t need to go through everything in one sitting, maybe make a weekly sit down dinner where you discuss this things.

Once he knows that you are thinking about getting married tell him no pressure, but instead of bothering you with wedding talk 24/7 I’m just gonna obsess about this over in my own little corner lol. Its so much better to obsess about it when you’re feeling it than to opress it. It will save you so much frustration. The worst thing you could do is not say anything and seethe inside about it. They aren’t mind readers!

Post # 12
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It would take a lot to explain, so I do suggest looking at my previously started threads.. but right now, I’m just trying to not bring it up (we sort of had a huge fight/discussion about expectations) and trust him to follow his promises. Not easy! I have been “waiting” since February, but SERIOUSLY WAITING like, upset about it not happening yet, since Thanksgiving.

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