- 8 years ago
My boss and my boss’s boss must’ve somehow been talking about marriage during a conference call, because they both came out of the meeting room (I’m the only young, unmarried person that works in the office) and I got bombarded!
My boss: “So when are you getting married.. Soon? Probably.”
Me: “Ooooh, that’s not up to me!”
Boss: “Well… yes it is, you get to decide too”
Me: “Well I’ve made myself pretty clear on where I stand”
We all laugh..
Then my boss’ boss: “You know, my wife proposed to me.. You should just ask him!”
Me: “Oh wow, talk about pressure, I don’t think I could do that.” Etc, etc, etc.
So of course I had to text my boy the story (we work for the same company and these guys are his bosses too)… and he said Ohhhh gee thanks Boss & Boss!
So we haven’t had a legitimate, sit down talk about the future for a while. We just got over a HUGE communication hump several weeks ago and things are back to being amazing like before. So glad. It was a rough couple of months but our relationship now feels better than ever. A lot was brought out in the open and I think we have a better grip on each other’s needs.
Because we have an October 2011 date set, I think I’m going to bluntly ask him tonight.. Are we getting married next year, and if not do you see marriage for us in the somewhat near future?
He’s said before “I do want to marry you, and it’ll happen” but he’s also said “I don’t see a need to get married.. why can’t we just have kids and live together” Talk about confusing!! Or is there some other way better to bring it up.. or a better question to ask? Maybe I just need to point out his inconsistent comments and see what he really thinks.
At this point, I just don’t want to be getting excited for a wedding next year if there won’t be one. And plus I probably need to start PLANNING!
On the other hand, we won’t know until next Spring (April/May) whether or not we’ll be moving cross country for him to go to school. So should I bring this up, wait til the Spring when we know whether we’re staying or going?? Because if we do move, I doubt an October 2011 wedding will happen regardless.
Gah, I am just all over the place. I am a planner and a little bit of a control freak, so it’s driving me INSANE not knowing ANYTHING. We had a blowout crying argument August 3rd about proposing, etc and pretty much it hasn’t been brought up since then. So is it time to say something or do I keep my mouth shut?