Post # 1
Hi fellow bee’s, today me and my brother got into an argument. It has crushed me, but at the same time I’m not sure I should pay It any mind. But It’s really bothering me.
A little back story.
When I was 16 In high school I did a medical assisant program, I completed It before I graduated. I got my certificate, and was able to work with It as a medical assistant. After I graduated I went to school to become an RN, I did that up until recently. I had a baby and all and never missed any days of school, I’m now on a waiting list for the RN program. The waiting list is 3 years long, So in the meantime I stared Real Estate classes. I did it because I have very good connections in this field, that can carry me money wise very soon.
My brother is 18, and he went off telling me I was spoiled by my parents and because of that I won’t be shit in life. His words exactly. I live at home with my daughter, because my husband was suppose to go to the navy but a business oppurtunity popped up instead. Because of that we decided to go back home to save up money to get a house in November , my husband works and makes enough to support our family. My husband doesn’t want me to work, but to finish my real esate class instead because I have stable money there.
My brother basically called me lazy told me I should go get a job, and I haven’t done anything in my life and I don’t take care of my daughter . I know he’s 18 and he has no idea about the real world yet, he’s still in high school. But the thought of thats how he looks at me really hurts and pisses me off, he’s never home to tell me what I do or do not do. I personally think I’m doing well I’m 22 and handle my business. I even take care of my parents who are older and sick by myself, because he’s always gone!
I just feel so confused I don’t know how to deal with him. It’s like there’s no point in arguing with him, because he doesn’t get life the least bit yet. Im just so upset, any advice bee’s
Post # 3
You’ve done great with your life so far, and you will do even greater things! Your brother is jealous and leave him be. Just tell him not to talk to you unless it’s something nice.
Post # 4
Sounds to me like he is being rude, plain and simple. I would not take this to heart- chances are there is some other stress in his life and he is taking it out on you as you are close to him.
Post # 5
18 year old guys just suck sometimes, they think they have it all figured out. My brother and I used to get in some vicious fights, and we’re pretty much best friends now. Just keep doing well for yourself and wait patiently for him to mature into a friend worthy sibling, that’s what I did 🙂
Post # 6
im pretty sure when i was 18 i thought i knew everything – now im older, i realize how dumb and spoilt i was
siblings fight and say stupid things sometimes – hes young, he’ll learn one day that its not all as hes judged it to be
Post # 7
Don’t let this get you down. He was probably just saying that stuff out of anger. He obviously has a lot of growing up to do. Maybe after you both cool down, you can have a conversation about it & let him know that his words hurt.
Post # 8
Wow, I’m sorry you’re brother is treating you like that! I have great respect for what you’ve done in your life, and no one should make you feel bad about your situation – you’re doing great!
When I think back about being 18, I cringe. I thought it was all so easy and I’d get it all figured out – years later, I’m not even halfway up where you are! Be proud of yourself, your brother will find out soon enough what the real world is like.
Post # 9
Don’t take it personally. He’s in an emotionally and mentally exhausting part of life, obviously feeling very entitled and possibly even jealous of your life. He’s acting like a spoiled brat in myI opinion. He should get over it and apologize. Dont confront him now, maybe next week when things simmer down. You’re doing just fine, don’t let his warped eighteen year old sense of the world get you down.
Post # 10
Personally Im jealous, I think you have done more before even graduating highschool than most!!
Hes 18 and egocentric. Just try to play nice and kill him with kindness.
Post # 11
He’s 18. At age 18, he’s be the ‘smartest’ he’ll ever be. People at this stage in their life think they know everything and that the world revolves around him. Wait til he matures emotionally and experiences the real world, and don’t take it personally in the meantime! I’m having some issues with my 18 year old sister and the things that come out of her mouth either drive me to tears or make me do a major facepalm. But I keep reminding myself that her brain isn’t fully developed yet and that our relationship is still a work-in-progress.
I swear I wasn’t that bad at 18, but my mother has reminded me otherwise Hang in there, these teenagers are a piece of work!
Post # 12
On a side note- I grew up very close to Rancho Cucamonga! Hello Inland Empire!
Post # 13
Thank you all so much, I know he’s 18 and I remember how I was at 18. I guess it just bothers me because he’s my brother. I’m just gonna ignore him like you all said, I really appreciate all of you taking time out to listen and help.
@eeniebeans: Really I hardly ever see anyone from the Inland Empire ! That made me smile. Thank you!