(Closed) I've gained a little weight and a friend asked if I was pregnant :-/

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

um yeah thats definately rude!!!!!!<br />I had a friend to do that to me on a picture, i THOUGHT i looked good in, like my belly looked thin from the side kinda thing, and shes the first one that liked and posted ‘Baby bump?”

I said lmao no, but thanks!

Post # 3
3014 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

amanda3334455:  That is EXTREMELY rude, whether you are pregnant or not!

Post # 4
1915 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Very rude. Even if you were pregnant.

Post # 5
296 posts
Helper bee

Of course it’s rude. I’ve been asked that too, when I was 17 and in a perfectly normal weight. Made me feel really bad. I mean, no one has a flat stomach in real life, grow up.

Post # 6
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: An amazing castle. August 2015

Yes very rude. I’ve also put on weight over the past few years and unfortunately it’s all settled on my belly :-/ I’ve had 2 people ask me if I’m pregnantand I was mortified. I might add that these people were complete strangers, I was really upset about it. 

Post # 7
5372 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

That’s super rude and exactly what I’m nervous about. I gained about 6 pounds since our wedding 6 months ago and I’m worried that someone will comment on it and ask if I’m pregnant. Pregnant or not, that kind of comment is always rude and inappropriate.

Post # 8
2793 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely definitely rude!!! People should learn never to assume if someone is pregnant. 

After I gave birth to Dirty Delete, an acquaintance asked me if I was pregnant again. Mind you, Dirty Delete was only 3 months old at the time.

I died inside lol.

Post # 9
1112 posts
Bumble bee

Rude! But people are people, so I wouldn’t ruminate on it if I were you, and I certianly wouldn’t make it a goal to lose weight simply because of that comment. Hah.

If it makes you feel any better, a stranger (woman in her…40s I’m guessing) saw me sitting at my desk and thought I was my MALE boss who is 11 years older than me. Thanks lady. And totally didn’t apolozige when she realized I was not a man nor was I the person she was looking for. What.

Post # 10
5962 posts
Bee Keeper



WTF??? Your friend had some serious balls!  Who asks that???  How rude. I don’t think she would be considered my friend.  If IF I ever suspected someone being pregnant I would discuss with my husband about how I thought blank blank was pregnant, not flat out ask her.  I remember when I was pregnant and I was about 17 weeks along and someone finally asked my husband “Is pinkcorsage pregnant?” And he didn’t want to lie, so he said yes.  Not surprisingly we publically announced a few weeks later with the gender.  But I would be highly offended if someone asked me and thought that was appropriate.

Post # 12
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Earlier this year a bunch of women from work started rumours that I was pregnant and everyone kept pointedly looking at my tummy, including my worried looking boss. One day at the end of a staff meeting under Any Other Business I said I’m not pregnant I’ve just put on weight. Too many pies and one hand in the biscuit tin. But, I’ve taken on board all the rumours and the looks and have joined a spinning class. Thanks all for bringing my weight to my attention.

A pin dropping would have sounded like a bomb in that room. I think they were hoping I’d leave the room but I continued to sit contentedly through the horrifying silence. Eventually my boss attempted an apology. 

Rude! But now no one will look at me below the level of my face lol…

Post # 14
1626 posts
Bumble bee

How have people not learned that you never ever assume a woman is pregnant based on how she looks?? It’s so rude and hard to redeem yourself once that Pandora’s box is opened. Sorry, OP

Post # 15
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Had that happen so many times in my life. I carry my little

bit of weight on my tummy. People are just rude, I would never say that to someone ever. Wish I had the guts to say something back but i just freeze. Just ignore them and know that they obviously lack manners and social skills

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