Post # 1
Here’s the thing, I picked my own engagement/wedding rings (they’re a set) and I spend ages agonising about what other people would think. I was adament that I wanted white gold but when I looked around nothing jumped out at me. I finally (after a long search) saw an ususual set that was really different to anything else I had seen – and also happened to be yellow gold which is typical! It doesn’t have a diamond as such – it has a little flower shape that is made up of tiny bits of diamond and the wedding band (which I love!) has little diamond bits all around it.
I chose it and was really happy… until I started showing people it. No-one has said ‘ooh it’s beautiful’ or anything that you HAVE to say when someone shows you their engagement ring whether you like it or not. My mum said it was nice but I could tell in her face she didn’t really think so, and the nicest comment I have got was from my cousin who said that it was ‘neat’ i.e. tiny. I now feel silly when I look at it and I wish I had gone for a more traditional diamond. I was thinking that I could just wear my wedding band when I get married – as I really picked the set because of that anyway – but because it’s part of a ‘perfect fit’ set it isn’t a round shape and I think it would look stupid on it’s own.
I don’t know what to do, my fiance knows I’m not as entirely smitten by it as I was but he’s still spend a lot of money on it for me, on a ring I chose, so I can’t really say my true feelings to him as I don’t want to upset him. I’m so sad 🙁
Post # 3
I know its hard not to get caught up with what people say, but you shouldn’t!! I chose a pretty traditional solitaire setting. I usually get “oh its a nice classic look” but nothing else. In an age where most people have wedding sets covered in diamonds, people going for simpler looks are often ignored.
However, in 10 years, i know i will still love my ring. I know that when i tried on rings covered in diamonds they just didn’t feel like “me”. I’m just not flashy and even though my centre stone is a little uncommon and a great size, i still get underwhelming responses. I am leaning toward a band with no diamonds, or a unique and vintage feeling band. And i just KNOW i will get the same response. But honestly, these people aren’t the ones wearing the ring, so why should i care what they thinks?
In the end, in 20 years time, what does it matter? I know plenty of women who dont even wear their engagement ring anymore because of work or whatever and it doesn’t matter. They have been marred 25+ years and are perfectly happy.
Sorry i ranted lol. i hope you feel better about things.
Post # 4
First of all, pics please? 🙂 We love pics! I’m sorry you’re not loving the ring as much as you were before. But try not to let your feelings be persuaded by other people’s thoughts. I know it’s hard, we all say that people’s opinions don’t matter but for many of us, they do. It’s just the nature of the human condition. But think about what you said, “No-one has said ‘ooh it’s beautiful’ or anything that you HAVE to say when someone shows you their engagement ring whether you like it or not.” That’s exactly it, people say what they HAVE to say, it doesn’t mean they’re being genuine. But if you’re truly not happy with it, that’s okay too, people’s tastes and styles change. Maybe for an anniversary or when fiances allow, you can get something more traditional? I’m sure it’s beautiful though!
Post # 5
If YOU love it, and you’re the one who has to wear it, that’s all that matters. Don’t let people influence something you fell in love with. I had options when shopping, too. I could have went for a bigger ring, but I went with a hand designed one of a kind with a middle stone that is .60, but VVS1 and F in color. Those people who make you feel bad about your ring are not who has to wear it, u are.
Post # 6
@Swizzle: I agree. my set is very simple but I know that I will still love it come 20 years later because it’s so classic.
Post # 7
Can you post a picture please? I’m sure it’s beautiful 🙂
Post # 8
don’t worry what other people think of your ring and don’t let them sway your feelings. you picked this ring for a reason and that’s all that matters.
Post # 9
I can’t take a pic of it on my hand as I’ve lost my phone cable to upload pics (I don’t have an internet phone). The only pic I can get is the stock image which is tiny sorry!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
If you love it tht is what matters. My ring I love it, many others love it but it is not everyone’s cup of tea. MY cousin’s wife knew we were going to get engaged and she was not a fan of my setting she prefered simple solitaires but she knew I was not her and that this ring was fitting of us and said thus. Some people just dont know how to be understanding of differences. There is nothing wrong with being different and liking what you like dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
Post # 11
Like the poster upthread, I am also a classic solitaire girl with a perfectly beautiful ring that no one oohs and ahhs over because let’s face it, it’s totes a boring ring even though it’s high quality. Doesn’t matter, I loves it precious, and I’m not even wearing another wedding band because my husband picked out a cathedral setting that makes more bands with it look ugly.
Your ring is gorgeous, no kidding. You did something different and picked something you love so don’t worry about what people think and just enjoy it.
Post # 12
Oh, I think it’s gorgeous!!! Try thinking this: If a close friend picked out a ring and she ADORED it, and you were sort of meh about it, what would you think if she went and changed her ring just because YOU didn’t love it? Wouldn’t you think she was being unacceptably influenced by other people’s opinions? YOUR opinion is the one that matters. Be strong enough to own it!
Post # 13
Know what that reminds me of?
Tulip rings! Remember? They were all the rage in the early 90s.
I think it’s beautiful! And while that dates it in the 90’s style for me, that will still be beautiful in 50+ years.
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Post # 15
First off, congratulations! btw i think your ring is beautiful! it looks classic to me and looks like something that will never go out of style. I chose a ring different from the norm. Ive never had anyone comment on it at all. my cousin was the only person who said anything and all she said was “leave it to you to be different!”. I took it as a compliment, figured since no one else said anything! i figured i’d take any comment as a good one. People have just looked at it and continued on with whatever conversation we were in. No compliments whatsoever! But to be honest it doesn’t bother me at all. My friends and family know i like to be different and i guess they expected me not to get a classic (albeit) beautiful solitaire. My Fiance and i searched high and low for an emerald cut shape and now that i finally got it, i wouldnt change it for anything, despite the lack of compliments! Its mine, and i look at it everyday and love it!
Post # 16
Congrats, I love it!
Honestly, no matter what type of ring you have, someone will have an opinion (good/bad/indifferent). All that matters is that you love it. You’re the one wearing it.