(Closed) I’ve got a looooong wait…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Pancakes!!Hahaha, typical dude behavior, always thinking of food, lol!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Boy, do I know that level of crazy. lol  What about a long engagement?  Would he consider that as a compromise?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had the same thought as 2ndtimeacharm.  No guarantees, but you said he doesn’t want to get *married* until he’s done with school, which is NOT the same as being engaged.  ๐Ÿ™‚  So maybe, just maybe!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

OK, I love that he woke up and immediately thought pancakes. Pancakes are good. I can’t blame him.

 

@AmyDee: You could bring it up next time you should him a ring you like. Say something like “Hey (cute little couple nickname here), would you be open to a long engagement? No pressue, but it’s just something I was thinking about the other day and wondered what you thought.”

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Oh girl, I feel you. We’re both 22, have been dating for 2 years, and live together currently. He graduates this December, I will graduate about a year after that (maybe, if I ever graduate haha) so it’s not that I’m necessarily in a hurry to get married. But I love him and I know I want to marry him, so knowing that an engagement is about 2 years away, it kills me. I am fully supportive and understanding of the reasons to wait to get engaged/married, I just want those 2 years to go by quick. 

So, no words of wisdom or anything, just know someone else is right there with you, and fully understands you. At least we both have men who we love, and who have let us know they do plan/want to marry us, even if the timeline is longer than we can stand haha. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We need to get you a hobby!!  Jewelry making maybe!!  Don’t lose your mind yet.  The time will pass quick enough.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@AmyDee: OMG, this morning as we’re layin in bed in the twilight zone (you know, where you’re not really completely awake, but not fully asleep either) I was mentally sending him ‘ringringringringring’ and ‘sparklysparklysparkly’ telepathic messages, and maybe mouthing the words silently as well, heehee, and I kid you not, he rolled over and mumbled the word ‘cheese’. I totally snorted and laughed, I just couldn’t help it!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Fiance and I are 22 as well, and we just got engaged in August.  We’ve been together for 4 1/2 years, so it’s about time!  I was in the same boat as you.. wondering when he’d propose.  I honestly thought I would have to be the one to propose! lol  I felt silly, because I know we’re still pretty young and there was no rush, but a friend of mine is my age and getting married, so I started getting wedding fever..

We had always talked about it, and for about a year before we got engaged whenever he asked me what I wanted for a gift (Christmas, Birthday, etc) I’d say “a ring!”  He’d always say “i’m not getting you a ring.”  I even showed him the ring I wanted, just in case he decided to propose.  He acted like he didn’t care, but he got me the exact ring I showed him.  Basically, what I’m trying to say is that he can act like he doesn’t hear you, and act like it’s not going to happen.. but if he doesn’t find it awkward when you show him rings, then he knows you’re expecting it.  Just give it time.  He’ll do it when he’s ready ๐Ÿ™‚  I didn’t think mine ever would.. but I’m so happy he did!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@AmyDee: Yup!  I was in your exact situation!  Only we don’t have to wait for school to be done because we’re both graduated.  I’d just keep it up with the “I want a ring” thing until you sense that he seems pressured or aggravated.  Can’t help to keep trying..

another thing is, if you’re in a conversation about marriage with family or friends or something, slip in a “i don’t see anything wrong with a long engagement” or “just because you’re engaged doesn’t mean you have to start planning the wedding”.  Maybe something like that will get into his head.. From what you’ve written it seems like it’s pretty set that the engagement will happen.. it’s just a matter of when.  So it can’t hurt to keep trying to speed up the process ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

that was supposed to say “can’t hurt* to keep trying” not “can’t help to keep trying” ๐Ÿ™‚

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