(Closed) I've got an STD question and I need your help.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?
    Send all the STDs out now. : (15 votes)
    79 %
    Send only the OOT guests their STDs. : (0 votes)
    Wait to send out all the STDs together. : (4 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    send them all now. i’m sending my december wedding save the dates at the end of next month.

    Post # 4
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    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @chewah:  The rule is 6-8 months. Majority of my guests are out of town and I think we did ours around 6-7.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You’ll definitely want to send them all together because if one family member mentions it to another, the other may think they’re not invited!

    I sent mine 10 months early because over 50% of my guests will have to travel from out of state or out of the country. I also included a link to the website with all of the booking and travel information, and 20 people have already booked their hotel rooms!

    Post # 7
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    1699 posts
    Bumble bee

    I lean against sending save-the-date notices altogether: I find them cold and impersonal, and a little bit pushy. You know how badly Bees take it, when a bride decides to send out pre-printed generic thank-you notes instead of personal hand-written ones? I consider save-the-date brochures in a similar albeit less egregious light.

    Traditionally the good news about your upcoming wedding and your plans was shared in a handwritten personal note. Nowadays, personal notes are written in (individual) emails or (private) Facebook messages, but they are still more personal than a mass-mailing pre-event advertisement. If I were you I would send individual notes to those out-of-town guests of yours so that you don’t have to worry about synchronizing your save-the-date mailings.

    Post # 8
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    12248 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think you’re giving everyone just the right amount of notice!

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You do not have to send out Save-The-Date Cards at all.  Save-The-Date Cards can lock you in, you MUST invite everyone who gets a STD.  I advocate minimizing number.  Read threads here, people have guests coming out of the woodwork.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Definitely read this as a sexually Transmitted diseaSe problem! Glad that is not the case!! Haha!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @hollyberry4Me too! haha!

    OP: I would send them out all at the same time.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @hollyberry4:  Yeah it’s taking me a really long time to get used to seeing STD and Bridesmaid or Best Man thrown around. Still makes me giggle.

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