Post # 1
So I have baby fever…kinda. My fiance has two teenagers and although I like them (slowly learning to love them. I am not that much of a B!), raising someone else’s kids is not the same as wanting a baby of my own. I am 29. He is 39. He wants to wait at least another 4 years but wants 6 MORE kids. I am like, “Dude, I want to be DONE at 34 not just starting.”
So bees, how long will you and your soon-to-be hubby wait until you begin trying to conceive? Are you on BC now and will you be after you get married? I have an IUD and can’t wait to get it out. I have had it about three out of the five years shelf life. I am tired of the hormones.
Post # 3
I want one immediatly, but we barely have enough money to suport the two of us. So no kids for at the most 3 years 🙁
Post # 4
6 more!? Wow! I would not wait 4 years to start having 6 kids, thats for sure. We will be waiting another year. I’m sort of itching to start cause I’ll be 32 soon, but my desire to travel is squishing the baby bug. So we have two more big trips planned for next year and will start then.
Post # 5
If I had it my way, I would have had my first child already, but that’s just not the way it turned out.
My Fiance and I are getting married in February, and once again, if I had it my way we would start trying for a baby on the honey moon lol!
However, Fiance wants to wait another 2-3 years, and for good reasons (mostly financial), so we have agreed to wait.
Post # 6
My Fiance and I each have one child already (I have a daughter, he has a son) and we have decided that if it happens, it happens… If it does not, we were blessed with the 2 and will go from there.
Post # 7
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I have a son and my Fiance has no.kids but I def have a serious case if baby fever! Like im ready now. We are planning in buying a home after the wedding but we are def shooting for a honeymoon baby! Hopefully God blesses us with one!
Post # 8
We don’t want children. But we said we’d re-consider it in 5 years, I’ll be 30 then… and hopefully settled. We’ll see!
Post # 9
I can’t wait to have a baby. FH says we will be working on that right after the recessional. LOL Honestly, we are hoping to have one within a year.
Post # 10
We’re waiting until we get a house and have the wedding for another. House and wedding have to happen first. It sucks, but oh, well.
We both have sons from previous marraiges (not to each other! :P) and a daughter together.
Post # 11
I must say that I have a serious case of baby fever as well…My fiance and I want kids right away but agreed to wait at least 4 months after the wedding. But if it happens before…we will be ecstatic either way!!
And regarding the birth control, I am tired of hormones too!! I plan on getting off birth control a week before my wedding but I have to ask my OBGYN about the side effects associated with that. I don’t want hormone overload on my wedding day or honeymoon!! Hahahahaha!! ::smile::
Post # 12
@Pinkshoes: I feel the travel bug! I have not traveled much so I also want to take two big trips before kids.
@Ryna: He wants a house too. He figures that by then his oldest will be out of college and the youngest out of high school. I by then will be shriveled and old! LOL
@FutureMrsEdwards420, my gyno told me I can get off the IUD and get on the ring and it will not interupt my cycle (I don’t get a period with my IUD. Praise God!) but that if I get off hormones altogether that may a different story. It took me 6 months to get used to the IUD. She said I can get pregnant right away with no BC. I have not had a real period in three years!
Post # 13
Since we’re both in our 40’s and we do not have any kids, we’re already on the Yellow Brick Road. I hope we’re pregnant by the end of the year. I love the travel so me, baby, and Darling Husband will be seeing the world.
Post # 14
Same boat as @kperry3: At this point we don’t want any. We will re-consider in 5 years. I’ll be 33 at that time, Fiance will be 30 & we’ll have been married for about 4 years. If we have any, there will be 2 MAX. LoL. I didn’t like being an only child, so I always said I’d have at least 2, if any. For a while I toyed with the thought of 3… but realistically… naaahhhh. LoL. Neither of us has the patience.
Post # 15
We want kids but we will probably wait at least a year. We have already brought the house and we want to get other debt out of the way. He is military and we do not know where the next duty station will be. Also, we had a miscarriage late last year so our next pregnancy will be considered “high risk” so he doesn’t want to be gone during the pregnancy. We we marry I will be 30 and he will be 34. I want to be done have kids by 32, but whatever plans God has for us we will accept.
But for right now, we are enjoying our freedom and watching other kids!
Post # 16
Mmmmm…there is a significant age difference between the two of you. I am also not so keen on the sounds of the current relationship you have with his children.
With all that aside, in my opinion I would explore more into why your hubby wants to wait on having the next one before jumping into anything.
If I were him, I would be looking at the wait to my advantage. Is sounds as if he is using the time to wait to see if you are capable of being a good mother with the children that are there currently and to see if he is also ready to have one in his mid 40’s.