(Closed) I’ve got…

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Just remember that anything you’re doing now is being taken away from your future self… does that make sense? 

It’s perfectly fine to start buying the magazine, joining pinterest, starting an idea book, etc. but if you do too much now, you’re going to be stuck with many months of very little left to do.  Part of the fun of getting engaged is the planning process with your BMs and family… don’t forget about that time period too… it may be just around the corner!   πŸ™‚


Post # 4
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@MrsLongcoatPeacoat:   What good advice! I’m going to keep that in mind when I feel the need to plan, plan, plan!



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@annasaf83:  I can relate to how you feel. I know the feeling of wanting to know what the plan is but also wanting a surprise. Sigh πŸ™‚ When my SO proposes, it’s going to be really hard not to immediately tell him all the ideas and potential plans I’ve come up with while waiting!

Post # 5
4883 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  Just remember that anything you’re doing now is being taken away from your future self


Oh, wow.  This is the best advice you could possibly give to anyone who is doing any kind of pre-planning.  I speak from experience – planning while being engaged is an amazing feeling and so much fun, I’d be so pissed if I’d had details nailed down before I even got engaged. 

Your time will come!  Just let it arrive on its own.  And then your waiting period will seem like nothing at all.  It’s weird how 2 years of waiting for him to propose flew out the window when he actually proposed. 

Post # 6
69 posts
Worker bee

@annasaf83: I feel the exact same way. I look @ stuff sometimes too much stuff actually.  but I dont think you can help it…I dont see the harm in surfing the web but dont book anything until you actually get the ring…

Post # 7
2023 posts
Buzzing bee

I got the planning bug a few weeks ago, I feel your pain. On the bright side, should he pop the question soonly you’ll be all set to hit the ground running on planning the big day πŸ™‚ At least, that’s how I’m looking at it.

Post # 8
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with the above, hold off the planning bug until the time is good – it will feel totally better when you reach it!

But by all means collect ideas and get to know what you do and don’t want. Although you will be surprised how quickly our tastes change!

Post # 9
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@annasaf83: I know exactly what you’re talking about.. perhaps a bit too much.  I’m trying to stop planning so much– and yes it does take away what I get to do when I’m actually engaged, thanks misslongcoat for reminding us of that! πŸ™‚

So take a breath and step back, having ideas are great but making things “set in stone” maybe not so much, unless it is a mutual decision between you and your SO.  I surf the web and browse magazines, but have yet to buy anything πŸ™‚  

Post # 11
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had the colors and the date and that was it before we got engaged lol…

Post # 12
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the previous comments about saving the real planning for your future engaged self. But in the meantime, it’s always fun to think about weddings that would be cool/ AWESOME to plan, even if they’re not what you would actually want for you and your partner. That’s the freedom about not being engaged – you get to plan a beach themed wedding one day and an elegant black tie affair the next, becuase you don’t actually have to decide! I know the type of wedding I will actually be planning (smallish garden wedding in March/April of 2014), but there’s so many other themes and details to choose from, I don’t see any point in narrowing it down until I have an official reason to. At least, that’s how I look at it when I start to get frustrated about not being able to plan. πŸ™‚ There’s a time for everything, and for now, I’m going to take advantadge of the ‘pre-engaged’ daydreaming state and daydream away!


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