Post # 1
the planning bug.
Ugh, I am such a planner and dreamer. But I want to DO something. I’m realizing that the date which SO and I had talked about (Sept 14th 2012) is about 10 months away and I can’t bring myself to plan anything for that date until I have the Ring. I kinda feel like if I start planning anything definite I’m gonna jinx it and then my whole life will fall apart… like seriously lol. I get a little superstitious about things like that.
Anyways, I got an email stating that if I booked a hotel room I’d save $5/night which is awesome! I went to see if the dates around my best friend’s wedding were available yet (Oct 6th 2012) and they aren’t but Sept 13th and 14th are… which makes me want to book the room I stay in my last night as a single girl… IF we decide to go with Sept 14th as our wedding date. Sigh, I know I won’t book the room, or anything else that I should be doing.
I just kinda feel so behind the 8 ball, I want to know what he’s planning but I also want it to be a surprise. I know how important that is to him, and even though I hate surprises I think it will be fun to have that surprise 🙂 But then I am seriously going to go crazy once he does pop the question. I’ve been making a list of local caterers, venue locations, and bakeries that we will go visit once the Ring is here.
I guess this was more of a rant, but has anyone else felt like this? Any advice? lol I know, I should take a chill pill and let it happen lol. But I have all these thoughts in my head and a desire to plan lol!
Post # 3
Just remember that anything you’re doing now is being taken away from your future self… does that make sense?
It’s perfectly fine to start buying the magazine, joining pinterest, starting an idea book, etc. but if you do too much now, you’re going to be stuck with many months of very little left to do. Part of the fun of getting engaged is the planning process with your BMs and family… don’t forget about that time period too… it may be just around the corner! 🙂
Post # 4
What good advice! I’m going to keep that in mind when I feel the need to plan, plan, plan!
I can relate to how you feel. I know the feeling of wanting to know what the plan is but also wanting a surprise. Sigh 🙂 When my SO proposes, it’s going to be really hard not to immediately tell him all the ideas and potential plans I’ve come up with while waiting!
Post # 5
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Just remember that anything you’re doing now is being taken away from your future self
Oh, wow. This is the best advice you could possibly give to anyone who is doing any kind of pre-planning. I speak from experience – planning while being engaged is an amazing feeling and so much fun, I’d be so pissed if I’d had details nailed down before I even got engaged.
Your time will come! Just let it arrive on its own. And then your waiting period will seem like nothing at all. It’s weird how 2 years of waiting for him to propose flew out the window when he actually proposed.
Post # 6
@annasaf83: I feel the exact same way. I look @ stuff sometimes too much stuff actually. but I dont think you can help it…I dont see the harm in surfing the web but dont book anything until you actually get the ring…
Post # 7
I got the planning bug a few weeks ago, I feel your pain. On the bright side, should he pop the question soonly you’ll be all set to hit the ground running on planning the big day 🙂 At least, that’s how I’m looking at it.
Post # 8
I agree with the above, hold off the planning bug until the time is good – it will feel totally better when you reach it!
But by all means collect ideas and get to know what you do and don’t want. Although you will be surprised how quickly our tastes change!
Post # 9
@annasaf83: I know exactly what you’re talking about.. perhaps a bit too much. I’m trying to stop planning so much– and yes it does take away what I get to do when I’m actually engaged, thanks misslongcoat for reminding us of that! 🙂
So take a breath and step back, having ideas are great but making things “set in stone” maybe not so much, unless it is a mutual decision between you and your SO. I surf the web and browse magazines, but have yet to buy anything 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks everyone, I’ll try to calm down and just enjoy the moment. 🙂
Post # 11
I had the colors and the date and that was it before we got engaged lol…
Post # 12
I agree with the previous comments about saving the real planning for your future engaged self. But in the meantime, it’s always fun to think about weddings that would be cool/ AWESOME to plan, even if they’re not what you would actually want for you and your partner. That’s the freedom about not being engaged – you get to plan a beach themed wedding one day and an elegant black tie affair the next, becuase you don’t actually have to decide! I know the type of wedding I will actually be planning (smallish garden wedding in March/April of 2014), but there’s so many other themes and details to choose from, I don’t see any point in narrowing it down until I have an official reason to. At least, that’s how I look at it when I start to get frustrated about not being able to plan. 🙂 There’s a time for everything, and for now, I’m going to take advantadge of the ‘pre-engaged’ daydreaming state and daydream away!