- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
The topic of changing my name to FI’s last name has come up a few times over the past few months. I have had very mixed feelings on the topic: I like the idea of unifying with my FI through our names and don’t want to disappoint his family if I don’t take it, but I like my name in general and feel very uneasy about the historical reasons behind the tradition. We want everything to be equal but FI does not at all like double-barrelling names. He also reckons it could get out of control (such as if our children have partners with double-barrelled names and the whole thing repeats itself until out great-great-great grandchildren are called *something* Watson-Carling-Brown-Smith-Jones-Abbott-Peterson). Silly to even think that, I know. But on the other hand, I do want us to somehow share his name without losing mine.
Sooooo after reading a recent thread on a similar topic, one Bee’s suggestion to another totally inspired me. I can take his last name and make it my middle name! I don’t actually already have a middle name and my FI’s last name is also a girl’s name. This never, ever crossed my mind!
Success! Now I’ve just got to run it past him when he wakes up.
Did any of you Bees have a tough time deciding on name changes, and if so, how did you end up deciding?