(Closed) I've had enough!

posted 6 years ago in Home
  • poll: WHO IS SUPPORTING ME?
    I am - I am rooting for you! You can do it, see you next week with pics! : (125 votes)
    86 %
    I am not - you should just burn the place! (much easier!) : (21 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I totally 100% support you and I really hope you can get your Fiance to help with the big clean out. I worry that if you do it all, he’ll get upset that you got rid of “his” stuff, or that you’ll just make him think you’ll do it over and over for him and he won’t have to ever confront the issue.

    My Darling Husband is a bit of a packrat too, and I book off days (like this later this afternoon actually!) where I say ‘Okay, you’re going to clean up X area, and I’m going to clean up Y area’ and we work on it together so it’s not so overwhelming for him.

    Sending you lots of happy clutter free thoughts!!! Good luck!!!

    Post # 4
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    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Good luck! Why IS there so much stuff? Are you moving? Is Fiance a hoarder? Whats the deal?

    Post # 5
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    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Oh! I don’t know how many times I have to nag on my Fiance to hlep me out clean his clutter.. circuit boards and cables everywhere.. his books everywhere.. It doesn’t take that long to clean, and stack away, but it would be so nice if he could do it himself sometimes! He always say: ” I’ll do it soon honey, just leave it be”..  LOL

    Good luck with your “project”, hope you get it sorted out soon! 

    Post # 6
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    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    You poor dear. Now I feel bad for nagging Darling Husband for wearing his shoes indoors and leaving empty popcans in the living room. Good luck making major progess this week!

    Post # 7
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    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I support you!

    Post # 8
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    DON’T DO THIS! Not by yourself, I mean.

    1) It’s not fair to you to pick up after his exploded messes,

    2) It trains him he can do this whenever he wants and not care about the mess (as you will eventually pick it up)

    3) There’s no telling what he wants and what is legitimate trash. (Note, I did not say “Legit,” as that is not a legitimate word…. *hint hint, other bees!*)

    Instead, I propose you give him a timeline (you thought you were done with those, didn’t you?) to clean up a particular room. If he doesn’t clean room X by Y date, all the shit on the floor / not belonging in the room goes right in the trash. No questions asked.

    Hopefully that will hold his feet to the fire and get him moving. Space out the rooms so he can time manage and staggar himself. It seems like there are a lot of out of control rooms going on. Furthermore, you guys clean stuff for a living, right? Not many people are fond of “working” on their time off…. that’s kind of bringing work home with him, so be patient with your timeline dates to account for the groan period that’s bound to happen. Be supportive but firm. He can do it!

    Post # 9
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    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @happyface:  I am so sorry for you. I moved in with my Darling Husband a few years ago and he is from a long line of hoarders. Luckily he is a placid guy and didn’t mind that I overtook his place and made it into a minimalist haven. 

    Unfortunatey with the way my Darling Husband is I just have to follow him around and pick up his trash/mess. Its like he dosen’t see it at all. I used to argue with him all the time trying to get him to pick up after himself/keep things the way I like them. At the moment I have just given up on that and just manage the house myself. 

    I wish you the best of luck! 

    Post # 10
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    PS: Until he cleans, change your avatar to “Yell

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @happyface:  Ok, after that clarification, you win.

    Know what might be helpful? What about these sorts of shelves?

    And these handy dandy vacuum bags:

    Or this closet doo-dad

    Post # 14
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    3452 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Tires in the living room?  Oh hell no, I’d be throwing shit out left and right.  I’m not a complete neat freak, but I can’t stand clutter.  A little bit is fine, but if it gets to be too much, it gets tossed.

    Good luck! 

    Post # 15
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Good luck cleaning.  It sounds like he needs a better organization/storage system for his stuff.

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