(Closed) I’ve had enough…

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Bumble bee

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@MsBrooklynA: Feel free to use it as your FB status Wink 

Hopefully, we can all get ourselves outta this icky funk before too long, and find peace during the remainder of our waits. Hmmph. Hopefully being the key word.

 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
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@MsBrooklynA: Darn ๐Ÿ™ Well, at least it sounds like you know he’s on board with it so it’s not so much an IF as a WHEN…which might make it a little easier waiting since you don’t have to question his commitment level in this case! But ugh waiting because of money…that just totally blows and there’s nothing any of us can do about it. This is my situation too…whether or not we get engaged relies entirely on our financial situation after we graduate, and I am a wreck knowing that there’s a big chance that money will just be too tight to afford a ring or a wedding. Sucks sucks sucks. Hugs to you ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

*hugs* I hope you are feeling better today!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

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@MsBrooklynA: It’s just a tough situation all around.. Playing the waiting game really gets you to your breaking point sometimes. I hate that it has to be about money. We decided to go with a moissanite for that reason but lemme tell ya it hasn’t sped up the process!! I thought it would be last summer. I am trying to not get my hopes up too high for this summer. He wants to be “comfortable in his career” before we get engaged– well thats YOUR fault buddy not mine so why am I getting punished for it?! Grrr… I think sometimes they just get “comfortable” and don’t see the hurry in it that we do. Well, none of us are getting younger that’s for sure.  Anyway, I hope you are feeling better. At least you know in your heart he wants to do it, but it’s just financial. At least you don’t have to question whether or not he wants to be with you, I know some Bees on here have trouble with that sometimes ๐Ÿ™

PS… And you should feel proud of your spot! (even though I do agree it’s kind of like a stab in the eye) All other waiting Bees are surely envious ๐Ÿ˜‰ teehee.

Post # 22
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Honey bee

I hear ya! I’m at the point where I am just like “eh, whatever”. I dont even expect it anymore. When we used to go out to dinner or some place special, I would wonder “Hmm. Could this be it?”. But now, I just feel defeated. I have offered to split the cost of the ring, told him to get moissanite, offered to not have a wedding, etc etc. At this point, I dont want to beg. I want it to just happen and its not.

 

Post # 23
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Honey bee

Oh and yes, I agree…he is comfortable. We own a house together…so its not like hes afraid of comitment! And he even has our children named and talks of them often. I dont know why he is torturing me.

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

things get rough… but you will always make it through!! Im sorry your feeling so frustrated tho.. Cheer up good things come to those who wait (cheesy I know)

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

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@Bostongrl25: BOO :/ I think I am in the defeated stage too. I definitely know how you’re feeling  and it’s not great!

Post # 26
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Helper bee

UGH!  I think I may be done waiting too.  Well, very CLOSE to being done!  My BF today told me he’s still not sure I’m the “one”.  I always suspected it, because he never said I was… but today I got confirmation of it.  It took me 5 months to know he was the one I wanted to be with, hands down.  One year later he is NOT at that place with ME.  I know 1.5 years isn’t that long, but we are both in our 30’s.  I told him that at our age, we should have this part figured out by now.  He was really offended by that.  He thought I was making fun on him for being “slow”.  It was not a good conversation.  He is unable to think about our future right now because of all this “pressure” I put on him today.

A huge part of me is no longer excited about anything anymore.  We’ve had a great relationship and he is still “unsure”.  How much longer am I willing to put up with this?  Not long, I’m afraid CryCry

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

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@MsBrooklynA: I’m so sick of that damn waiting list. It’s like a stab in the eye every time I see it (but secretly I like being at the top;)

Lawd, I thought it was just me. I just don’t even click on it anymore.LOL I hate being #2!

Post # 28
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Busy bee

I hope you feel better! It really sucks to be in one of those bad waiting moods ๐Ÿ™

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