- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Shit has hit the fan ladies! I’ve never really been a fan of Future Mother-In-Law because she treats Fiance like crap. She constantly calls him lazy (he works about 70 hours a week), an alcoholic (he rarely drinks) and refers to him as “it.” Well, she texted me on Monday asking if we could get together to go over final wedding things (she’s done NOTHING to help before). So yesterday we meet for lunch and she starts bad mouthing Fiance.
Let me back up…When Fiance was in highschool, he did drink a lot. Actually, the county he’s from is known in the state as the highest underage drinking county. I’ve known Fiance for 7 years, and he rarely drinks. When he does, it’s when he’s with friends, or the once-in-a-blue-moon beer at night.
So, Future Mother-In-Law thinks he’s an alcoholic and yesterday she said she’s worried about his drinking. I said that’ he and I are together anytime we’re not at work, and I don’t remember the last time he drank. His bachelor party was last weekend and of course he had a lot to drink…so that might be a part of it. She had the audacity to ask me if she should stage an intervention!! I was in such shock that I just shook my head and changed the subject.
And..Fiance and I just bought our first house and we’re in the process of moving things in and right now, the house is a mess with boxes and paint and stuff. Well, she TOLD me that because there’s a gap between the ceremony and reception, she’s going to bring her whole family and some friends (very few of whom Fiance knows) over to our house. I didn’t say “oh hell no!” because I didn’t know if Fiance made arrangments.
After lunch I called Fiance and asked if he knew that his mom was bringing people over and he said no. I said that she told me she was going to take people over and he got pissed that she would assume she could walk into our house like that. Our house is always locked, and she doesn’t have a key, and she’s not getting one.
This afternoon I got a text from Fiance saying he’s going to have a talk with his mom. I haven’t talked to him yet (he’s at his 2nd job), but he spoke with my mom (who he’s very close with) and my mom filled me in on what happened. Apparently, Fiance told his mom off and told her she’s not allowed at our house etc, and she needs to stop calling him an alcoholic and to leave me out of things. Well, Future Mother-In-Law starts bawling and said that she doesn’t know what to do now with her family between the ceremony and reception, and she can’t believe that he would say that to her.
Now, we’ve had a 2 1/2 year engagement and she’s known that there would be a gap, she’s had all that time to figure something out!! I have friends coming from farther away and I’ve not heard a peep from them about what to do. The place where the reception is being held has a really nice and swanky lounge area and Fiance told his mom that they can go there, and she said they don’t want to.
So, Fiance is PISSED with his mom, as am I and my parents. Fiance does not need this kind of stress a week before our wedding!!
Sorry that was so long…I really needed to get that off my chest!