(Closed) I've heard of 1 thing going wrong, but EVERYTHING? Vent time.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@DarthBetty:  yeah, part of being engaged is having lots of unsolicited (and often tactless) advice given to you as if it were a gift from the Queen of England.   You just have to vent/cry/scream/punch your pillows, spoil yourself with something nice, then move on.  It’s your day, don’t let anyone stop you from enjoying it, no matter how annoying they might be.  *HUGS*

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Ugh, frustrating!!  Sorry to hear about your accidents, that really sucks.  My only piece of advice is when someone suggests you do something differently, just smile and nod and say “I’ll look into that” and then go and do whatever you actually want to do.  Everyone has to throw in their two cents whether you want it or not!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hope this doesn’t come across wrong, but this post made me smile…and laugh a little…because you’re kind of speaking exactly what I’m feeling (minus car accidents, but plus lots of family illnesses/death instead).

 

Yes, everyone is going to give opinions all the time on everything even if you don’t want them. Especially when you don’t want them.

 

I’m at the point in wedding planning now when I wish I wasn’t having a wedding at all and was, instead, eloping. Everyone keeps saying how the day is about me and blah blah blah…but I honestly feel like a guest at my own wedding right now. I feel like anything I personally want to do is considered tacky, and so I have to settle for someone else’s idea of a wedding.

 

I just want it over with.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@DarthBetty:  @inky_1:  I hear both of you LOUD AND CLEAR! I keep getting everybody and their uncle with their opinions of what I should and shouldn’t do. I swear if I hear “You’re not doing THAT, are you?” one more time, they’re going to have a homocidal bride on their hands. 

Apparently it’s part of the experience but I’ve been wishing I just eloped for months! Ugh!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Sorry about your car accidents. People can be crazy and inconsidate. ((Hugs))

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I’m sorry!!! ๐Ÿ™ Try to breathe, everyone goes through this kind of stuff, and I promise it’ll be okay! The biggest lesson I’ve learned with wedding planning is to shut my mouth. Not giving people details or ideas you’re thinking of is the only way to insure they won’t shoot them down. It’s your wedding, do what you love and can afford, and the people who love and care about you and your fiance are the ones who will be there and will make the day super fun and special! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

My advice which you probably don’t want: tell NO ONE anything!!! Say ,”Oh, we haven’t decided yet.” Literally. No. one. anything.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

It’s your wedding. I know it’s hard to tune people out, but your wedding is a celebration of you and your partner’s love for each other. If people don’t like how you are choosing to celebrate it, well that is sad for them. Focus on how awesome your wedding is going to be and please yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

Also, thought this might cheer you up. We had Darth Vader, a stormtrooper, and an Imperial guard at our wedding. I guess some people thought it was weird but most people loved it. So screw those who say you can’t have Star Wars characters at your wedding – I’ll back you up haha

Darling Husband with Darth: 

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It seems like weddings bring out the critic in a lot of people. Just remember what is important to you and your fiance and everyone has will just have to deal! Take control of everything you want and don’t want. ๐Ÿ™‚

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