Post # 1
Hi, all….I haven’t been here in a while because my Fiance and I moved into our new home last week. I’m excited that we are finally living together, but in the process of moving, I have totally lost my motivation to even think about the wedding. It doesn’t help that my Fiance may kick his son out of the wedding because we found out he has been dealing drugs and there’s a whole lot of drama around that (he is supposed to graduate high school in a few weeks and we don’t know if he will even show up). It’s also my busiest time of year at work. I’m just feeling overwhelmed and sad for my Fiance and his son and am just terrified that I won’t be able to pull off this wedding after all. This is supposed to be such a happy time for all of us, and I just feel like crawling under a rock……not much anyone can do about it, but I just needed to get it out!
Post # 3
Aww I feel for you as I have a son who just this week graduated high school. Teenage boys are so tough to raise these days. Believe me he has stressed us out like I just can’t believe. I will tell you not to kick him out of the wedding. Perspective can be lost under the stress but try to keep sight of the big picture. That being that he will grow up and out of being a jerk and screwup, so the goal has to be to keep your family together. Something like kicking him out only alienates him from the family that is supposed to ground him. I’m not saying no consequences but don’t make the consequence something that makes things worse. He needs to know your going to love him through his screwups , and mine has had some douses. Just keep remembering that things and feelings pass. Take a break from planning until your family is back on track. having said all that that venting to other parents helps too. Teenage boys mostly suck, I just keep telling myself that 3-5 years from now hopefully that boy will turn into a good young man!
Post # 4
@bricon: Thank you. My main concern is that this is a decision my Fiance can never undo, and I fear he will regret it down the road. Like you said, his son could outgrow all this nonsense this will only further damage the relationship.
Post # 5
Your wedding is in October; why not just take off the rest of June and get back to planning in July? Gve yourself a little time to adjust to the new house, get settled and figuee out what’s going on with the son.