(Closed) I've never felt anxiety… Until I had to plan my wedding…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Man on man, i am there with you sister. Engaged in September, MANY MANY tears spilled over since this. I feel you. can you take a break from all the wedding excitment/stress? Step away for a week or two? Nobody tells you how overwhelming it is once you become engaged. Real like kicks you in the keester. Talk a breath and walk away for a bit. Hang your dress back up, don’t look at it for a while. Go enjoy the holidays, especially New Year’s Eve, then come back and start to rethink. Forget everything questioning your choices. It’s your day, along with your Fiance. The people who are meant to be there, will be there!

 

Worse case, drink wine. Lots of it.

Post # 3
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8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would take a break from wedding planning until the new year. Your Fiance has time to ask his groomsmen if your wedding is in July 2015. The guys don’t have much to do at all this early.

Post # 6
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Stop. Breathe. Relax.

There’s so much pressure to pick the perfect .. everything .. and it can drive you completely mental. It really is just a day – an important day – but it’s a day. You can fuss over every detail as much as you like and still not be happy – I found that it all comes down to having a realistic attitude and confidence in your decisions.

My dress was amazing. It wasn’t the most expensive dress or the dress to end all dresses, but I loved it. I saw other dresses that I liked after I’d already bought mine, but I loved mine because it was mine. Yeah I worried about the colour being wrong, backfat, would my Fiance like it, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. My veil was borrowed and had a massive hole in it that was stitched up the night before the wedding, but it was my veil and special to me.

Our venue wasn’t breath-taking, but it was in our budget and convenient for us and our guests. It didn’t have amazing views but it was comfortable and the food was great.

Our cake was “eh”. It tasted great, the photos look fine – there are a million other cakes that I could have picked, but we chose this because it’s the only cake that Fiance and I both liked.

Oh, and after all of our planning for a beautiful outdoor ceremony, it rained. It poured the entire day, which meant that our ceremony had to be moved last minute, and all of the my dream photo locations could no longer be used.

But, to me it was the most perfect day. I wouldn’t change a thing – even the rain – because that was our wedding day. I couldn’t stop smiling all day! You can choose to dwell, or you can choose to be happy.

My best advice is to:

  • choose what makes you happy, and if you can’t do that, be realistic about what you can have and try to find peace with that
  • once you choose something, stop looking. There are a million options for us brides, but have confidence in yourself and your choices.
  • not everything has to be sentimental (e.g. we chose our date because that was when our chosen venue was available) because whatever date you choose will be sentimental anyway
  • I’m not going to tell you to not sweat the small stuff, because to me the small stuff made our wedding “us”. But sweat the small stuff keeping the first two points in mind 🙂

Most importantly, relax and know that whatever happens, your wedding will be great. 

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