- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
I’ve been thinking about this for awhile, and today I pretty much reached the decision that I want to move forward with it. I really do want to get a second ering. I made a couple posts about this recently but I wanted to make a thread for it so I can vent a little bit and get some advice from you Bees who have diamonds.
As some of you may have read (lol, I have been bitching about it ever since it happened…), I lost a little diamond out of my ering. Since then, I’ve been calling around, and none of the jewelers in my town seem to be able to work with platinum or antique pieces in-house. It’s kind of frustrating, and it really got me thinking that I need to buckle down and get a second “ering”, something with significance that I can wear every single day like most women do.
First of all, I am already paranoid about damaging my ering and as I have said before, it seems like I almost never get to wear it out of the house. I can’t wear it to work, it’s just not even an option due to me using/washing my hands constantly. I also can’t wear it with my wedding band anymore, as it’s too damaging to the diamonds along the shank. I love the ring so much but I need something more practical.
I don’t know what direction to go in as far as getting the second ring. I’m torn between setting the diamond my mom gave me, or getting another amethyst and diamond ring that would be somewhat similar in spirit to my original ering. I’m ready to dip into my savings account and spend a decent chunk of money, so I want to think really hard about my decision.
I think what I really want is another amethyst ring, since I was drawn to that as an ering for a lot of reasons. It’s pretty meaningful to me.
On the other hand, my mom did give me a diamond that has been in the family for a long time and never been worn, just kept in a safe. It’s a pear, which isn’t the shape I would’ve chosen for myself if I had options. Also, it has no papers. My grandfather used to make a living selling jewelery and gems, and he gave it to my mom decades ago. All she knows is it weighs in somewhere over a carat, that’s basically the entire extent of info we have on this stone. So I’m not sure how to go about getting it set. Like, wouldn’t I need to send it to GIA before letting a jeweler put it into a setting or handle it? Do I need to get it appraised/insured before having it set? Any advice on this would be so appreciated, I find the whole thing kind of daunting to be honest.
Here’s a pic of it, it has some weird prongs around it but it isn’t in a mount:
If I did get the amethyst ring, I would have the diamond set into a pendant or a solitaire RHR or something like that later on down the line.
I’m really confused as to what I’d rather do, because I know the setting I’d really want for the diamond is going to cost a lot. Probably more than I want to spend. I mean, I’m assuming that because I’ve never had any higher end custom work done. But I’ve always envisioned putting the diamond in a 3-stone ring with side heart shaped diamonds or gemstones, with every stone in the ring halo’d. That can’t be cheap.
My budget is $3,000 MAX. I don’t want to take *too* much out of my savings but I’m ready to do this for myself, as I’m sick of not being able to wear my ering whenever I feel like it. Any thoughts?