(Closed) I’ve reached the point where I hate my wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wish I could go for a run after that! I’d probably go for a vat of chocolate…or ben and jerry’s…whatever was closer!

Sorry you’re stuck listening to all of the complaints! I hate that! Hopefully you can just find a way to politely smile (while trying to set them on fire with your mind) and tell them how sorry you are that they are terribly inconvenienced. Do I smell smoke? Yes…yes I do… Lol.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Okay. Deep breath. Craptastic day. I know I really really really hated this point in the planning process too. People don’t know how to just smile and shut up some days. It’s your wedding, not theirs, and you may have chosen to do something different than what they would have done, but that’s why it’s your wedding. I don’t think you should be obligated to make explanations for any of your choices! Unfortunately, you can’t really make this stuff stop. People will ask you the same questions a million times and all you can do is smile and give a diplomatic answer and change the subject. It sucks. I know. Just keep plodding through things and checking things off the list.

Remember too it’s important to take a break every now and then. When I started getting to my breaking point I would take a couple days off from anything wedding related. I would feel horribly guilty, but at the same time, it was needed SO badly. Going for a run is a great idea to keep your stress levels down. Maybe tonight declare it a non-wedding night, rent a movie, order some Thai, and just relax. Deeeeeeeeeep breaths.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I felt the same way up until like a week ago and now I am so excited about the wedding and so happy that I’ve had my hands in everything and made everything “us.”  Hopefully it will end up being awesome and totally worth it.  Hang in there — may I suggest a wedding break?  I took several whole weekends completely off from wedding stuff.  It seemed somehow “irresponsible” at the time, but, come on, it’s a wedding, not my job!  It’s ok to take a break!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

 

Yep! Wedding planning can really get on your last damn nerves. I am going through it too as we speak. Ugh!

I decided to take some time away from it. I hadn’t even bothered to think about it, let alone get more work done. I know that I shouldn’t leave things till the last moment but I am in that “I don’t giva sh*t!’ mode right now too.

Sorry I did not have much of an advice. But here are some ‘feel better *hugs*!! Embarassed

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yes, take a wedding break I agree … My Fiance and I haven’t had a weekend where we aren’t doing wedding related stuff (appointment with florist, DJ, etc etc etc) … so I am getting really tired of it too!!! I know it sounds insane but I just don’t want to think about it too much anymore.  SO, this weekend … we aren’t scheduling anything or going out for any wedding-related stuff.  Just me, him going on a date night – good movie (RED is out in the theater) and and dinner afterward – no wedding related stuff and hopefully we will try not to talk about wedding either! 

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like that.  As you know, my wedding is also downtown (where we live), and my in laws were shocked that we wouldn’t have our wedding in Brampton (where they live).  I completely agree with you about how it would be really difficult for our friends our age to get to Brampton since none of them have cars and they all live downtown.

I think it’s great that you’re going for a run and attempting to find a way to relax.  If you want to plan a Toronto meet up or a crafting session where we can help you/listen to you vent just let us know!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Here is what I have come to learn, and even my Future Father In-law told me this, haha, which is funny. There is always going to be someone who doesn’t like an aspect of your wedding. My future father in-law told me there will be things that I want to do about the wedding that will upset my future mother in-law (his wife) haha, and our grapndparents, and etc, but ultimately it’s your wedding, so do what you want, haha. I also agree that maybe you should just take a break for a weekend, it will be good for you.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just be thankful you are able to do what you want for YOUR wedding. It sucks people arent happy with it but that doesnt matter because YOU will be happy with it! I tried to have all the control over my wedding and my Mother-In-Law took control of so many things it was ridiculous. In the end I still hold some resentment because she decorated our ceremony and our reception space and I had given specific instructions…that she did not follow AT ALL. I cant even look at our ceremony pictures without cringing!!!!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Girl, don’t stress. You sound just like me the weeks before the wedding and everything was utterly awesome, even the stuff that wasn’t (if you get my drift).

Stay true to your vision and remind yourself you made these decisions when you were excited, fresh and decidedly more sane-feeling…don’t let anyone guilt you because they are the same ones who will be the most blown away at how lovely it all was…breathe and push on through!! The light at the other end of the tunnel is indeed sunshine and not an oncoming train ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck!

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

People complained that our hotel was too expensive. I never told anyone they HAD to stay there, and I wasn’t going to reserve rooms all over creation. People figure it out if you ignore them.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Oh you are SO not alone. For me, the excitement has come back and we’re *just* about at the one month mark.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ArwenBride: The people who truely want to be there will be there. I am having the same problems. Are venue is aoout 20 minutes outside the city and some people have to travel 45 minutes. I shrug and say it’s the location I want and if they can’t make it then I’m sorry.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Isn’t it funny (but not really) how people who are usually polite seem to throw out all their manners when you’re throwing the biggest party of your life? I plan to just smile at complainers and say something along the lines of “In spite of [insert gripe here], I hope you’ll be able to make it!” and then not really worry if they do or not Smile

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