(Closed) I’ve received “nos” from Save the Dates, what should I do?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Claxton Farm

Yes… you can still send the invite. They may not be able to come, but their plans may also change. The invite signals that you still want them included as part of your day. 

Post # 4
1732 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yep, still send an invite.  You never know when plans will change and they can come anyway.


Post # 5
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Still send the invite. plans can change, plus you want them to feel included even if they can’t make it. If they question why you sent the invite anyway, just explain that what you sent out first was more of a heads up than a formal invite and that you wanted to make sure they knew they were appreciated and thought of.

Post # 7
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would also enclose a little card that says “sorry that you cannot make it. We wish you well. Hope we can hang out sometime soon” or something of that sort. This is so that you let them know that you already know that he can’t come.

Post # 8
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

He does realize your wedding is NEXT year, right? Most companies don’t schedule things a year out like that..

Yes, you can still send him an invitation, because he is still invited. I was annoyed when I would ask people for their address and they wouldn’t give it to me because they coudln’t make it. I was like Grrr.. you’re still invited and getting an invitation so fork it over! In my case I think it was a way out of buying a present..

Post # 9
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Definitely, still send one!  Even though he jumped the gun on the RSVP, it’s important to confirm that he was to be included.  It’s the classy gesture.

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