I've tried on 30+ dresses and I haven't liked any of them…

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Are your expectations to high? Are you looking for that bridal moment?

i tried on about 20 dresses, and I only got semi bridal feels in one of them. I wish I had shopped by myself more. Ppl bring opinions. The dress I got wasn’t a crowed pleaser in the first round. But everyone came around when I got it. 

Post # 3
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3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Shop alone. The snarky comment wasn’t necessary but if you continue to bring others with you and don’t find anything I can see that happening again. Plus 3 stores and 30 dresses sounds like a really long day. 😧 Is it the style of dresses you didn’t like or the structure? For me it was structure and I didn’t figure that out for a few months. Next time limit it to 10 dresses. After awhile they will all start to blur together and you’ll either get frustrated or settle just to have a dress and be disappointed later.

Post # 4
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356 posts
Helper bee

The best decision I’ve made so far was to ONLY bring my mom to dress shopping. Too many people = too many opinions and too much pressure. That plus what your one bridesmaid said- I’d say just go by yourself or with one person.

Post # 5
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2253 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, take a break.

If you need to shop for dresses by yourself, do it. Sometimes being with other people while making such decisions can really put one off the scent of what one really likes and wants, and can keep one from trying on dresses one may not have considered before. 

Definitely consider dresses that aren’t wedding gowns; evening gowns, prom dresses, and bridesmaids dresses make great wedding dresses. They can look bridal while also having color, sparkle, and details that most wedding dresses don’t have or have at much higher prices. 

Don’t worry. You’ll find your dress.

Post # 7
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2741 posts
Sugar bee

Can you narrow down and pinpoint what you like and what you don’t like? That seemed to help me. For example, I would give feedback to the lady helping me of “I don’t think I like the scalloped lace, let’s stay away from that”. And that not only helped them, but helped me narrow down exactly what I wanted!!

Take a break, DON’T think about it for at least a few days, and then get back to looking. I found my dress when I went shopping by myself. Then later brought my sister and friend to confirm it was the one. So you have that option too.

Post # 10
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3534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

clairhuxtable :  honestly? 30 dresses is a lot for bridesmaids to have to look at it. i think if i were your bridesmaid, i’d be a little fried after that day (though the comment was wholly unnecessary). you don’t have to shop alone, but keep the shopping part minimal. your mom, or your mom and sister (if you have one). it’s much easier. and do 1 or 2 shops a day. also, it might not hurt to shop around alone for a bit to get a feel for what you really like/want. then if you think you’ve found the dress, you can always bring mom back with you to see it before purchasing.

as for the dress itself, it sounds like you don’t have a clear idea of what you want/like. an easy place to start is silhouette. were there any silhouettes that you tried on that you thought were realy flattering or just felt really great? even if the rest of the dress wasn’t “it”, maybe a certain silhouette called to you? then think about material. do you dream of lace? do you want bling? are you into something cleaner like satin or crepe? there are A LOT of dresses out there. if you start by narrowing down what you’re looking for in a dress, you’ll be able to spend your time shopping more effectively but trying just the dresses that fit that idea.

Post # 12
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I don’t think the price of the dress is why you’re having trouble, you just haven’t found a dress that you liked being in. I went to 5 bridal shops and tried on probably 40-50 dresses. Eventually I found a dress that I put on and really felt comfortable in and felt like “my” dress. There were no tears or anything like that, just a feeling that I was done shopping for wedding gowns. The consultant asked if I wanted to try on the next dress I had in the dressing room and I said, “Nope. I’m done shopping.” Without any hesitation. Of course the dress ended up being out of budget and I did leave the shop and go to two more bridal salons and ordered a dress online (which I subsequently sent back) because I didn’t really want to go over budget, but I went back and got that dress, because that was the one that felt right. When a dress feels right to you, you’ll know.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I think the idea of shopping alone is probably best. Give you a chance to get what you really want in your heart of hearts vs what others think. It’s your dress, give yourself a chance to figure out what you want.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

clairhuxtable :  I only took my mother shopping with me. I didn’t want a lot of opinions being thrown at me, so I’d definitely suggest trying to go with less people (or alone is fine as well). Also, my consultant pulled the dress I ultimately got. It isn’t something I EVER would have pulled myself and I’m so glad she did. For some the dress is the first one they try on. For others it takes a while. I didn’t want to settle until I found a dress that felt like me, even if it meant trying on a lot of dresses. I also only did one shop a day so my mother wouldn’t get burned out shopping.

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