I've tried on 30+ dresses and I haven't liked any of them…

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

clairhuxtable :  Definitely shop alone, at least a few times.  And try different silhouettes.  You might be surprised!  Good luck, relax and enjoy the process.  

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2018

It took me forever to find a dress. I thought I’d never find one.

Post # 18
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545 posts
Busy bee

Maybe you should leave that bm at home next time

Post # 19
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473 posts
Helper bee

Take a break, and next time only take one or two people so you aren’t overwhelmed with opinions. Also, try not to try on so many dresses at once. Doing so will just make things more difficult and confusing.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You should try on no more than 5-6 dresses at a shop… and go to only one shop a day. Shop alone or with only one other person. 

Even the most reasonable person would be snarky after 30 dresses.

Post # 21
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Newbee

I feel ya, girl!! I’ve tried on about 30 dresses too and it’s frustrating because some people say they “just knew” when they found the one. Here are some things that are helpful for me so far:

  • Prioritizing the basics that I like and that are important to me: silhouette, neckline, back details, etc.
  • Pinpointing things that are a deal breaker for me: sequins, etc.
  • Identifying nice to have details: long train, buttons
  • taking lots of pictures to compare them later!

I’ve also spread out trying 1-2 shops every weekend instead of just 1 day. That’s so exhausting! I’m sorry but your Bridesmaid or Best Man should not have made that snarky comment :/ I think going by yourself would help.

 

good luck to both of us!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

clairhuxtable :  Hi Bee.  All I have to say is research, research, research!  Start with the type of dress that is flattering to your body type, then google from there.  Are there dresses in your closet that you’re in love with?  Start with that type. You’d be amazed at the number of dresses out there, its overwhelming….but you’ve got plenty of time. Take a break then get on the online and go to work!  You already know what you’re reaction to the dress is supposed to be so don’t settle until that feeling hits you.  

Post # 23
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Busy bee

What kind of theme or feel are you going for? Maybe you’re looking at the wrong dresses in the wrong places. If you’re a more casual, boho, or just not-traditional kind of person, standard wedding dresses won’t appeal to you. If you post the elements/silhouette/neckline you like, the bees might be a better help to point you in the right direction than those consultants 🙂

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Wow. You’re MOH’s comment was really unnecessary. That makes me feel extra lucky since my bridal party joined me for a 2 day bridal dress hunt (4 salons, and I probably tried on close to 50 dresses. But, my sister had flown in from out of state for the occaision – the first thing she told me after I got engaged was she wanted to be there for dress shopping so I was trying to make the most of it). 

 

That being said, I tried on 50 dresses, but *the* dress was the first dress I tried on at the second salon.  Every dress after was just getting compared to it.  Is there ANYTHING that you can pinpoint that you liked? Trying on my dress made me realized that I like a lot of detail – embroidery, beading, etc. and if a dress had a lot of plain space, it wasn’t going to cut it. Do you like a certain shape? Are you wanting an interesting back? Do you not care for an interesting back because you want your hair a certain way and it’ll cover it?

 

Taking a break is a good idea. Ultimately, I ended my day 2 very upset and confused and needed to step back for a week before choosing my dress. But in the meantime, try and pinpoint things you like / don’t like. Did you only focus on one shape? Maybe that’s not the shape for you! Sorry. There are so many things to consider!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would take a little bit of a break.  I see that your wedding is next August so it can’t be a super long break, but at least a week or two just to take a step back and NOT think about dresses.  Also, I wouldn’t take that many people with you.  If you think going by yourself will be more beneficial than go for it.  Otherwise maybe just stick to your mom.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

clairhuxtable :  I had a budget of $1000. And I have expensive taste. I found Hayley Paige’s Blush line and fell in love. I ended up doubling my dress budget. It was worth it.

I would think for $5000, you’d be able to find something. Maybe try more boutique kind of dress stores? Those seemed to have a better selection than the bigger stores. It was more narrowed down, and less overwhelming. The store I got mine from only allowed one appointment at a time. I was the only person in there, which helped a lot! I didn’t feel pressured and there was zero commotion happening.

Post # 27
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Helper bee

I tried on a million dresses. I hated pretty much all of them. I started researching the designers each of the salons I was going to stocked because I found I was going to salons then realising that everything they had was in no way my style, and then trying on some dresses just for the sake of it. By doing that I managed to narrow it down to the (few) designers I liked then made an appointment to go to one of their flagship stores where I liked most of the dresses (and found my dress). So I started shopping smarter I guess? I also only brought one person to each appointment with me – either my mum or one of my bridesmaids – so they didn’t get too bored (wedding dress shopping is boring, let’s face it). Also like, I just see my dress as a nice dress, that’s all it is, there’s no magic, and there were certainly no tears. It was like this one is nicer than the others and fits my personal style, ring it up! Done. God I hated dress shopping. Maybe I’m weird.

Post # 28
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Busy bee

I think you should be able to find something without changing your budget. Look at designers and dresses online. Pick a silhouette you like, neckline, or even fabric. A good consultant will be able to pull dresses that will look good on you based on the parameters you give her. Have the consultant pull a few that are outside what you think you want… Sometimes those can be the best picks!

Post # 29
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2019 posts
Buzzing bee

I think 5k is plenty of budget. I’d relax and go by yourself or just with 1 friend (or your mom or sister). TBH if i was a bridesmaid, I wouldnt want to look at 30 dresses either. I wouldn’t say anything, but I’d probably be tired and annoyed after the first 15. 

Wedding dress shopping is one of those things that isn’t all that fun unless you are the bride. 

I would also recommend doing your hair nicely and wearing makeup (if you arent already). I think it makes a world of difference when you are trying stuff on to really see the full ‘vision’. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I say shop alone or just take one person with you who you know that will be honest and positive. Think about the things that you want and don’t want. The thing that you don’t want can be more helpfull than you think. Being picky is okay. You have a whole year to find your dress. 

 

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