I've tried on 30+ dresses and I haven't liked any of them…

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Please don’t buy a random dress just to please your bridesmaid. Yes, 30 dresses is a lot to try on but ultimately you’re the one that has to wear it. Don’t settle just to please someone else – you will regret it later on. 

My advice would be to either shop yourself or to take 1 person with you, like PPs have recommended. Seriously. It’s so much less stressful and you can focus on how you feel in the dress rather than how your entourage feels you look in it.

The other thing is to be open to trying on different styles, or dresses that you don’t think you’ll like on the hanger. If you’ve been trying on only mermaids for example, try a ballgown. You might be surprised! 

Post # 32
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5087 posts
Bee Keeper

Take the pressure off by shopping alone or only bringing one person along.  Too many opinions can blur your true instinct.  Reflect on your shopping experience to determine what aspects of each dress you tried you liked and didn’t like to help narrow down your search.

I had gone to two boutiques with my Mom only and tried on about 14 dresses total before deciding on a dress.  In the end I chose something that was true to my style, something minimal, something timeless.

Post # 33
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee

clairhuxtable :  I think bridal shows have really changed the way we view dress shopping nowadays. Just like when you’re watching HGTV and the couple looks and three houses and then decides which one is their “dream house,” these bridal shows tell us that you shouldn’t have to try on more than three dresses to find your “dream dress.” That’s just not reality. 

You could easily look at 30+ houses while house hunting, and you can easily look at 30+ dresses while dress shopping. 

And just like with house hunting, you don’t increase your budget just because a friend is tired of your search – you set a budget and then you find something within it. 5k is a fantastic budget. Don’t feel bad about continuing to look. I think shopping alone is a great idea. You wouldn’t run your home purchase by 10 of your closest friends right? You might just get the opinion of one or two close family members, on your last few finalists, right? Same concept. Find 2 or 3 dresses that might be “the one” and then run those by your Mom or sister of one of your bridesmaids. 

Don’t feel pressured to give up the search, or up your budget, just because of one snarky comment.  

Post # 36
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551 posts
Busy bee

 

clairhuxtable :  honestly i felt this same exact way until i went dress shopping on my own. I realized my Maid/Matron of Honor and Mom and myself had so many different types of styles and interests that it got in the way. What I liked, they didn’t and vice versa. When I went on my own, I found so many that I LOVED that I had a hard time picking. Sure I felt lonely, but I didn’t have anyone making me second guessing myself.

Post # 37
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

i just got my dress a few weeks ago (finally) after looking for about a month, its safe to say i tried on probably 55 dresses before I found “the one” 

the best advice I can give you is to narrow down what you like and what you dont like and ONLY try on dresses that fit your criteria!! 

I didnt just “KNOW” the moment I tried mine on, I actually had it narrowed down to two and tried them both on back to back 100 times, took videos of the dresses, went home and watched them both, then went back the next morning to buy my dress! I couldnt be more pleased with it!!! GOOD LUCK

Post # 38
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

oh and also, to your bridesmaid (who I am assuming hasnt been married before) picking your dress is on of the MOST IMPORTANT things about this experience! 

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