IVF – Left over Embryos POLL

posted 1 year ago in TTC
  • poll: What did you do with your left over embryos?
    Had them destroyed : (5 votes)
    19 %
    Donated them to science : (11 votes)
    42 %
    Donated them to another couple : (10 votes)
    38 %
    Decided to use all of them due to the choices above : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We got pregnant naturally the cycle before we started IVF, but as part of the consent process we had to decide what we would do with any left over embryos.

    I wanted to donate to science or to another couple, husband wanted to destroy (the NHS would store them for a few years for free and so our decision would have been for after that storage time)

    Husband wasn’t comfortable with donating to another couple. He would have maybe given to science, but ultimately he felt quite strongly that if we don’t use them then they shouldn’t be stored.

    Post # 3
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    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Following this thread! I am so torn also! I am currently pregnant after 6 rounds of IVF but still have 4 embryos left. I dont know what to do!

    Post # 4
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    So we have no idea how many we will have left after we are done having kids.  We are just starting and hopefully doing our first transfer in January.  We already went through stims though and have 7 blastocysts.  There is no way we want 7 kids but also no way of knowing if all 7 would take.  Our tentative plan is this:  after we are for sure done having kids (we want 4), we will pgs test our embryos.  Any normal ones, we will donate to a couple and have an open adoption (or at least be able to get updates) and donate to science (specifically MS research as my wife has MS) any abnormal ones.

    Post # 6
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

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    mama2bee71 :  I think it depends on what you put on your forms/your clinic.  We have not tested our embryos yet so we left that part of our documents blank as to what to do with abnormal embryos, but I remember it said we could discard or donate for research.  So if you chose research for any abnormal ones, then that is where they went.  If not, then they just destroyed them.

    Post # 7
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think our RE’s options were only 1) discard or 2) donate. No science option that I remember.  We had to give directive on the abornals (PGS because over 35) and the leftover embryos we weren’t going to transfer.

     

    These are hard decisions and I don’t judge anyone who chose something different but we chose to discard all because of all the “what if’s” about donating for adoption – about how we would explain to our kids why we kept some of them but not the others, that they have genetic siblings out being raised by other families. After having kids, I can’t separate emotionally from knowing we’d have bio kids out in the world somewhere. 

     

    But bless those who can because I know there are thousands of grateful receiving parents.

    Post # 8
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    826 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    You should check out This Gathered Nest on YouTube! She talks about her experience with embryo adoption and shows her cute little twins! 

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    This is so hard and I have no idea what we will do. We have 8 left but want one or two more kids. They are not pgs tested. I think I would donate one or two to a couple in need but not any more than that. It would take a lot of soul-searching though to know if I would be able to cope with knowing my bio kids were out in the world. But I think I could do it. Otherwise I would donate them before destroying them. It’s something I didn’t think would be as big of an issue before I had kids. Now that I have my daughter and know what those little embryos can become it for sure has changed my perspective a bit.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    mama2bee71 :  we had 4 embyros and the first one is our daughter – the other 3 are frozen for future use by us. We had to decide before our cycle what would be done with embyros in the event of our deaths or divorce and we decided they would be donated to research. Our theory was if we wouldn’t be having sex to have a baby together, we shouldn’t use the embryos either. We plan on having more kids so we’ll see what we’re left with once our family is complete, but I think we would probably donate to science. 

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That’s a really hard decision.

    I don’t think I could donate, as much as I would want to. Just knowing I had other biological children out there would really bother me I think.

    I would probably donate to science…

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