Post # 1
Ladies, for those of you have gone through IVF… if you had any left over embryos, what did you do with them? I am jumping the gun on this but there is a very good change we will have 2 left over. I am very torn on what to do with these embryos. I have time to think about it and even use them but I wanted to get some ideas of what others have done and why. Please take the poll but explain your answer.
Post # 2
We got pregnant naturally the cycle before we started IVF, but as part of the consent process we had to decide what we would do with any left over embryos.
I wanted to donate to science or to another couple, husband wanted to destroy (the NHS would store them for a few years for free and so our decision would have been for after that storage time)
Husband wasn’t comfortable with donating to another couple. He would have maybe given to science, but ultimately he felt quite strongly that if we don’t use them then they shouldn’t be stored.
Post # 3
Following this thread! I am so torn also! I am currently pregnant after 6 rounds of IVF but still have 4 embryos left. I dont know what to do!
Post # 4
So we have no idea how many we will have left after we are done having kids. We are just starting and hopefully doing our first transfer in January. We already went through stims though and have 7 blastocysts. There is no way we want 7 kids but also no way of knowing if all 7 would take. Our tentative plan is this: after we are for sure done having kids (we want 4), we will pgs test our embryos. Any normal ones, we will donate to a couple and have an open adoption (or at least be able to get updates) and donate to science (specifically MS research as my wife has MS) any abnormal ones.
Post # 5
You bring up an interesting question I now have. We had I want to say 15 that went for PGS testing. We only got 4 that came back. We have a healthy baby girl from one of those embryos and we weill be doing our next transfer this summer. I am hoping all goes well on that transfer. Financially, with working and doing daycare, I cant see us using the last two so I am so torn on what to do. We did have to make the decision back when we signed up and we chose to donate to science, but now I feel beyond guilty over that. I am now wondering, all those embryos that didnt pass during PGS… where did they go? Did they go to testing because we chose that? I assumed since they were not good, they didnt make it and that was it. Now I am wondering if that wasnt the case.
Post # 6
I think it depends on what you put on your forms/your clinic. We have not tested our embryos yet so we left that part of our documents blank as to what to do with abnormal embryos, but I remember it said we could discard or donate for research. So if you chose research for any abnormal ones, then that is where they went. If not, then they just destroyed them.
Post # 7
I think our RE’s options were only 1) discard or 2) donate. No science option that I remember. We had to give directive on the abornals (PGS because over 35) and the leftover embryos we weren’t going to transfer.
These are hard decisions and I don’t judge anyone who chose something different but we chose to discard all because of all the “what if’s” about donating for adoption – about how we would explain to our kids why we kept some of them but not the others, that they have genetic siblings out being raised by other families. After having kids, I can’t separate emotionally from knowing we’d have bio kids out in the world somewhere.
But bless those who can because I know there are thousands of grateful receiving parents.
Post # 8
You should check out This Gathered Nest on YouTube! She talks about her experience with embryo adoption and shows her cute little twins!
Post # 9
This is so hard and I have no idea what we will do. We have 8 left but want one or two more kids. They are not pgs tested. I think I would donate one or two to a couple in need but not any more than that. It would take a lot of soul-searching though to know if I would be able to cope with knowing my bio kids were out in the world. But I think I could do it. Otherwise I would donate them before destroying them. It’s something I didn’t think would be as big of an issue before I had kids. Now that I have my daughter and know what those little embryos can become it for sure has changed my perspective a bit.
Post # 10
we had 4 embyros and the first one is our daughter – the other 3 are frozen for future use by us. We had to decide before our cycle what would be done with embyros in the event of our deaths or divorce and we decided they would be donated to research. Our theory was if we wouldn’t be having sex to have a baby together, we shouldn’t use the embryos either. We plan on having more kids so we’ll see what we’re left with once our family is complete, but I think we would probably donate to science.
Post # 11
That’s a really hard decision.
I don’t think I could donate, as much as I would want to. Just knowing I had other biological children out there would really bother me I think.
I would probably donate to science…