IVF meds start tomorrow – I’m scared….

posted 6 days ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

MsGinkgo :  it’s completely normal! It’s nerve-wracking because you feel like you’re now on the final stretch of your journey with so much uncertainty about the outcome. And it’s hard because it’s all you’ll think about every waking moment, everything revolves around meds and monitoring. Be gentle with yourself, it’s ok to feel the way you’re feeling and it’s ok to be completely selfish and think only about your wellbeing at this time. Hugs bee, sending you lots of positive vibes

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MsGinkgo :  I just finished my third (unsuccessful) round. What you are feeling is normal. I will say, other than not enjoying sticking myself with many needles, the shots were really the least difficult part for me. I didn’t have a lot of side effects from the meds. The emotional aspect has been much harder. I wish I had gone into it with a more realistic mindset that it may not work the first or even second time. It’s basically a trial and error process and you keep trying until you find something that works. I feel like IVF is sort of touted as this magical “fix” but it’s just not, at least not the first time. I think your thoughts are dead on. It’s scary and frustrating and maybe can be exciting at some points but definitely not always. I agree with the PP. Just be kind to yourself and do whatever you need to do to get through it. I tell myself it will be worth it in the end and I try to believe that as much as I can even when it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

MsGinkgo :  it’s totally normal to feel this way. Which meds are you doing? Just know there are tricks to the meds you do. You will learn as you go. Are you doing testing or ICSI? (I highly recommend both). It gives you a better chance in my opinion especially if you’re paying out of pocket. I hate needles and IVF isn’t that bad. Like I said tips and tricks 🙂 you got this!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

MsGinkgo :  Good luck starting your meds!! What you are feeling is completely normal. I wasnt excited when I first started my meds either bc I was so scared what they would do to me. I started to get excited when it got close to actual transfer. The meds honestly were not that bad. I agree with pp the emotional aspect of ivf was harder for me then any of the physical aspects.  Be good to yourself and do things that you enjoy during the process. I did meditation and acupuncture and that really helped calmed my nervous. In all honesty the shots are not that bad. Not fun, but not near as bad as I thought. One thing I did while stimming was to not make any commitments bc I wasnt sure how I would feel. Glad I didnt commit bc the shots did make me sleepy but everyone is different.  I wish you the best of luck on this journey and if you have any questions along the way you there are many bees on here that can help you out who have gone through it before. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I remember in the months leading up to IVF I was feeling like it was a magic fix and excited about it but felt the same as you did when the time arrived.  Suddenly it became more real that it might not work.  Of course my clinic also made me watch a bunch of videos on the process and chances of success so that kind of got me down!  But so far it is working for me.  I only ended up with two five day blasts but I’m almost 11 weeks pregnant with a fresh transfer.  It’s great that you have insurance coverage.  Having the option to do more than one round should put your mind at ease somewhat.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

MsGinkgo :  you only need one! I had 8 eggs but only two fertilised. I was pretty disappointed. Only one made it to day 5 blast and was frozen. The other one was a day 5 morula. They thought it may not freeze well so we popped it in. I’m 29 weeks pregnant with a little boy! Wishing you all the best. It really is an emotional roller coaster and self care is so important xxxxx

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

MsGinkgo :  I totally understand. One of my girlfriends (who has beautiful baby boy after 4 cycles of trying) says she wouldn’t wish ivf on her worst enemy. It’s tough! But obviously she’s so glad that she stuck with it.  So be kind to yourself, and just remind yourself that statistics are kinda skewed in ivf…some people do 20 unsuccessful cycles, others do 1 or 2 and complete their family. Try and stay positive and make sure you have a support network to talk to. My clinic offered free counselling, which I didn’t access but I know my friend did. Also, not all protocols work for all people… after 3 unsuccessful cycles with one doctor, my friend switched doctors (and medication, doses etc) and she was then successful! I technically got pregnant on my second cycle because my first cycle was cancelled after I responded poorly to the drugs. Thankfully the failed cycle only cost around $900 from memory. So that was disappointing but they upped my meds and second cycle was the winner. Keep in touch and let us know how you go xxxx

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