IVF starting soon!! Anyone else close?

posted 1 month ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are starting our pre-screening for IVF about now. We had 5 failed IUIs with oral and injectible meds, and, at the time, no coverage for IVF, so we took a 2 year break while Darling Husband went to grad school. His new job’s insurance DOES cover IVF, so we’re starting up again.

I’ve had my blood tests and sonohysterogram, just waiting for authorization for an MRI that my RE wants me to have. It’s basically a given that we’ll be doing IVF in the New Year, just need to get all these screenings done first. 

I’m both thrilled to move forward and terrified. The TI and IUI cycles were already physically and emotionally difficult; I imagine IVF will be more so. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

LadyBear :  I just finished a freeze-all IVF cycle after 2 failed IUIs. Truthfully, the IVF felt less emotionally difficult. And it wasn’t nearly as bad physically as I had anticipated. Hopefully, it won’t feel too overwhelming for you.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

larissakay :  That’s good to hear. Thanks for the good wishes.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

LadyBear :  I agree with larissakay – I also just finished an egg retrieval cycle (freeze all, FET in January) and it felt like such a weight off my shoulders to hand everything over to the doctors. Even more so than IUI. Not gonna lie, the shots sucked, but they weren’t nearly as bad as I thought they would be! I hope everything goes smoothly for you in your IVF journey.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

LadyBear :  I had 5 failed iuis as well but did ivf and now have my little one. IVF has much higher success rates then iui.  I thought IVF was in some ways easier then IUI bc we had more control if that makes sense. Also it wasnt near as bad as I thought it was going to be physcially. Emotionally it was challenging but that was mostly during the wait to see if I was pregnant or not. I wish you the best of luck!!!

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

sleepymelis :   candy08 :  Thanks, ladies! This is reassuring for sure. Hopefully, the MRI won’t show any reason not to proceed with IVF, and we can move forward soon!

As for the shots…eh, I’m an old hand at injectibles by now since we used them for TI and IUIs. Luckily, Darling Husband has experience giving shots, so he was able to do them for me from day one with minimal pain. 

I know this is ALL worth it if we end up with an LO… but there’s that not-so-hidden fear that it won’t work. Trying to stay positive, though!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

LadyBear :  I wont lie….the fear that it wouldn’t work was by far the hardest part for me. I dont have much advice on how to deal with that only that I just still did things I enjoyed while going through the process and found things to help with anxiety such as meditation or acupuncture.   Keeping my fingers crossed for you and that your MRI will come back good!!

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

MissKristi :  It is a lot of pressure. You’re using serious meds to make your body do things it can’t do naturally. But you’re also not in control at all. I found reminding myself that the doctor knows what she is doing and that she’s been through a lot more IVF cycles than me helps keep me sane. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

MissKristi :  it’s so hard to let go of the little bit of control you have, but I found the best way to stay sane is to try to put my faith in the doctors and accept that whatever will happen will happen! Keep the hope, and if things don’t go quite as you expected, keep communication open with your doctor and see what can be adjusted. Don’t be afraid to ask questions! Trust me they’re used to it! 😉

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

MissKristi :  I don’t know; they want me to stay on my contraceptives until I get the MRI, which is taking time to get approved through insurance, so it’s kind of up in the air.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MissKristi :  I’m sorry to hear that. It can be such an emotional roller-coaster. The fact of the matter is that retrieving a large number of eggs is not always possible, regardless of age or other factors. It could be that this protocol wasn’t best for your body, your ovaries were suppressed too much during priming, etc. There are just so many factors. I’ve done 3 cycles and never had any more than 2 eggs for a 5 day transfer. Also, if you are doing this for PGD testing, it’s not entirely out of the realm of possibility that you have some degree of male factor as well. We discovered that after 3 failed rounds of IVF. Sperm quality is considered to be responsible for embryo growth from days 3-5 so if you are losing embryos in that time frame it could be male factor as well.  Try not to focus too much on the grading since that is really only a visual grading system and is a guess at best. Good luck!

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