(Closed) IVF to guarantee sex- What are your thoughts?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Would you do IVF to guarantee a baby of a certain sex?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    As someone who has 2 girls, I don’t understand this line of thought at all. I’ve had people say to me “oh, you HAVE to try for a boy!” As if our family is lacking something? Doing IVF to have a baby at all is fine of course. But as I tell my 3 year old- you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.

    Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    The only thing that would make me consider IVF for a certain gender is if DH or I were a carrier for a sex-linked genetic disease. They most commonly manifest in boys, so I can understand doing IVF to select for a girl in those circumstances. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We would not.  Would I like to have a girl, eventually?  Sure!  But I also really wanted a boy, that just happens to be what we have this time around.  We’ve always said we’d like 3 or 4 children.  I do think if we end up with 3 boys we’d be more likely to go for the 4th child.  If we have 2 boys and a girl or 2 girls and a boy, I could see us stopping at 3.  What if I end up with 4 boys?  Then I’m a mom to 4 boys.  I figure I’ll get what I get and be the best mom to all of them that I can be.  

    100k is a lot of money.  I could do a lot for my future children with those funds to enrich and enhance their lives.  

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee

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    Boxerlover24:  That seems a little absurd to me – in a perfect world, DH and I would love to have a little girl and a little boy. We’re expecting a little girl in Oct and if our second happens to be another girl, we’ve already decided we’re not trying for a third child in hopes that it’s a boy.

    I think IVF/adoption/whatever means you and your partner deem fit for your specific relationship if you are having trouble conceiving a child naturally is perfectly normal and understandable, but for a gender guarantee? I don’t get it but maybe there’ll be a demand for it..only time will tell!

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    Boxerlover24:  personally, if (and that is a big if) i ever decide to have biological children, i will more than likely need IVF or a surrogate or something and if i could choose the gender, i definitely would. i would only be having 1, so i would want a boy. my Fiance is a sports FINATIC and i would love for him to have a mini-me. i also have a sister who is 12 years younger than me, so there are a lot of times that i feel like i already have a daughter and would never ever want to have another hah. 

    buttttt then again, my opinions about pregnancy and child bearing and all that are out there – to say the least haha. (so take what i say with a grain of salt.) mix that with the fact that i am a control freak in my own life… and hell yeah i’d pay to make sure i get exactly what I want lol. 

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    No. That’s too much like playing god and that’s a very slippery slope.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That is craziness! To me that’s totally messing with nature. Even though with IVF I get the idea that you can choose but even if I needed to do IVF one day I don’t think I would want to choose. I think I would want it to be randomly chosen just like how it would be naturally.

    My DH is convinced in 20ish years people will be able to choose genetic traits they pass on to their children, such as eye color, hair color, etc. Seems creepy and totally unnatural to me!

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    Boxerlover24:  I would not. Some people would kill for just 1 healthy child, boy or girl. I know some of those people. I am not religious in the sense that I do not participate in organized religion but I do believe in God and I think doing something like this is an attempt to play God. I would be very happy and grateful to one day have even just 1 happy, healthy baby. I would be over the moon to have 2 and would I love to have 1 boy and 1 girl, yes, very much so. But I am not entitled to everything I want. Neither is anyone else. I just wouldn’t mess with nature/God/whatever in such a manner. 

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t do it to guarentee a sex, but her money her choice so I couldn’t care less if she chooses to.  Some people also judge those who choose IVF over adoption, and who are they to judge in that case either?

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

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    Boxerlover24:  That’s a toughy. I really want more girls than boys. If I ended up with all boys…I am HAPPY to adopt to fix that. My Girlfriend, not so much. I’ll keep working on her. I guess at the end of the day, we all should just be grateful for the childrens giggles that grace our lives, regardless of gender. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    If I had to do ivf for fertility reasons, I would have no issues with selecting the female embryos for implantation.  But I really cannot imagine going through ivf just for sex selection.  It’s not as easy of a procedure as these articles make it seem.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would love to have a girl, but we planned to only have two and if this LO is a boy, then we’ll have two boys and that will be that. We have always discussed adoption so maybe down the line we’ll adopt a girl but I would not go through IVF to guarantee it for myself. As PP had noted, if we were trying to avoid a genetically passed on issue that may change the answer. But just because I “want” a girl, nope.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t do it just to get the sex that I wanted but if I was already doing IVF and had a preference why not?

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