Ivf Trying for baby #2 with last remaining embryo

posted 3 weeks ago in TTC
Post # 2
747 posts
Busy bee

candy08 :  I’m sorry to hear you had to deal with a miscarriage, I’ve had two as well and know they’re heartbreaking. Although I didn’t do IVF I think I would have the same view with you not wanting to do a second retrieval if the transfer failed because I wouldn’t want to destroy the embryos, donate them for testing and I’m not sure I’d feel comfortable letting them be adopted either.

Isn’t IUI a possibility? That would be less invasive and you wouldn’t have to worry about any extra embryos. 

FX this is all a moot point and the transfer takes

Post # 4
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

candy08 :  I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I’m gearing up to start IVF for baby #2 and those feelings of anxiety and fear are also coming back for me the closer I get to my transfer. 

I has 3MMC’s and 1 chemical prior to having my LO last year. My first FET was a loss and my 2nd was my LO.  I was verging on a nervous breakdown my entire pregnancy fearful of losing him at any time. I thought knowing I had a successful pregnancy would put my mind at ease this time, but nope, the closer we get the worse it gets. IVF and loss is scary and emotionally draining and I think its normal for you to have those feelings. 

My LO will be 12 months when we do our FET. Ideally, we would have waited a little longer, but im 35 and my Darling Husband is 45 and I’m fearful it could be another 2+ year journey. 

We have 3 frozen embryos, but, if we aren’t successful with them, we will do another retrieval. It’s important to me to have more than 1 child. I don’t know for sure yet what we’ll do if we have remaining embryos, but we would strongly consider donating to research in hopes of helping another couple, like my husband and myself,  have a health baby one day. The way I think about it is that someone before me had to give to research in order for me to have my
 beautiful baby boy via IVF. 



Post # 5
14975 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 One of the ways I dealt with my eight retreivals, and made it that far, was by not trying to think too many steps ahead.  I mean, I’d play out the senarios like you did, but then I didn’t beat myself up trying to figure out which path I would take cause really, present me will more than likely be in a completely different mindset that future me when finally faced with the decision.  So.. you already know your next step is to transfter your last frozen.  You know there are two possible outcomes, 1 being the ideal, and 2 putting you in a position to make a choice to stop or to do another retrieval.  If the latter happens, today you can guess and plan all you want, but I  believe that only future you will know in your heart what to do when you really have to decide.  Take a breath, and just take it one decision at a time.

Post # 7
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

I don’t have any experience with this yet, but just wanted to say that I’m thinking of you and wishing you the best with your transfer! If it were me, and it was something I could afford it it came to it at the time, I think I would do a second retrieval if the transfer of the last embryo didn’t take and I was certain that I wanted two children. I guess I have this personality type where I wouldn’t be able to let it go unless I tried one more retrieval, but it’s such a hard personal decision. Anyway, I am hoping it isn’t a decision that you will need to make and that your transfer goes perfectly! 

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