- 1 month ago
- Wedding: September 2017 - California
Curious for those who have gone through a FET – any advice or things you wish you had known going in to your first cycle? Any resources that you thought were particularly good/calming/not overwhemlming/optimistic? I’m of course nervous about the injections, mainly because I don’t want to screw them up or mess up the dosage somehow. That being said, I know women do this all the time and manage not to screw it up, so I’m way more nervous about the fact that even a PGS normal embryo can fail to implant or result in miscarriage, which is so scary to me after two miscarriages already.
I figured I would start a thread on this because as a newbie to this I thought it would be great to hear from people who have gone through IVF with a FET and PGS testing. At the moment I am waiting for AF to arrive any day now (and having raging PMS cramps – fun!). My story in a nutshell: we started NTNP in early 2018 when both Darling Husband and I were 33, we were not tracking at all so I genuinely don’t know when I got off birth control but we got married in September 2017 and a few months later I stoppped my BC) and got pregnant in December 2018. I had a missed miscarriage and a D&C in January 2019. AF returned in March (or maybe end of February) and we started TTC with temping/charting that month. On our fifth cycle trying I got pregnant again. The pregnancy grew to about 5 weeks in size but I didn’t miscarry until about around week 11 or so. AF returned in October. We tested the POC and it had two separate chromosomal abnormalities. My RE did a full RPL panel and at the moment we’re waiting for results of sperm DNA fragmentation and karyotype testing. So we’ve done all the tests my RE recommends and his recommendation at this point is to do IVF with PGS testing (I believe he also said something about another type of additional testing if the last two tests show anything abnormal – thinking back on it I don’t think it was PGD testing, but something else).
My clinic is closed at the moment so the next opportunity where I could start IVF that lines up with my cycles would be the cycle that starts towards the end of January. I know there’s still that 10-20% chance we could conceive next month and, if we conceived my RE says our chances of miscarriage are around 30% with my history and age. While there is still a chance that I could have another spontaneous pregnancy that sticks (which was always my goal/hope, as I am sure you can all relate to), I’m not really optimistic because I haven’t had luck with that thus far and my RE isn’t very encouraging about waiting too long on that because we want two children (have none so far) and I am currently 35. I’ll be at least 36 before I give birth to the first. He said if we wanted one child, he probably would not be too concerned about continuing to try on our own because we’d have a lot more time and wouldn’t have to worry about the time that will naturally need to pass between having the first and second child. So, even if we get super lucky and I have the first at 36, I obviously can’t just have another immediately after that and I would probably realistically be around 38 for the second.