Post # 1
I’m wearing Allure 8634 in Ivory. http://www.allure8634.com/
It’s all lace, and the bottom layer is a darker color, with the top being more ivory.
Today we went to order tuxes, and the girl asked about the guys shirt color. She talked about a white shirt making an ivory dress look dingy. I told her go with white, because Fiance was next to me and I don’t want him to know anything about my dress.
Now I’m worried that white is going to look bad with my dress, but I’m also worried that an ivory shirt is going to look dingy. FWIW, we’re going with the new fitted Vera Wang tux from Men’s Wearhouse, classic black w/ black vest and black bow tie.
Post # 3
My dress is also ivory and from what I’ve heard (bridal shop people, florist, etc) you don’t want your guys in white! Nor the linens or flowers. Just a bit of advice. 🙂
Post # 4
I wore ivory and my Darling Husband and all the guys wore white. We didn’t like the ivory shirts because they looked dingy. His white shirt had no effect on my ivory dress at all. They looked practically indistinguishable. We also had an all white ceremony and my dress was just fine.
Post # 5
You need to see the shirts in person. For reals. While dresses in ivory are pretty soft, most men’s shirts in ivory have a far more yellow cast to them, and will actually stand out more against your dress. The shirt is mostly covered up by jackets/vests though so I wouldn’t worry too much, but DEFINITELY go see the shirts in person as all the ivory shirts I’ve seen have been REALLY yellow-y
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. We did see the white shirt in person, and it’s white. I didn’t even ask to see the ivory shirt, I guess I should have.
Post # 7
I use to work at a tuxedo shop & that’s always what we suggested to brides. I totally agree with @bearlove:. When I look at my dress it doesn’t look blatantly ivory so if yours is the same way then look for a similar shirt that isn’t obviously ivory but not stark white.
ETA: ok just looked at the link to your dress. Definitely don’t do white. Your dress is very obviously ivory.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You’ll be fine either way. My linens were white and my dress was ivory and it was not a problem. Ivory dresses look white for the most part anyway. If anything, it made my dress look softer and natural.
Post # 9
I’ve been debating this same topic. I hadn’t even thoughht about this until i went to Mens Warehouse and the lady said the same thing. I actually choose the ivory, but am going to switch back to white for the exact reason others are saying…..the ivory looks kinda yellow.
I looked at a lot of pictures online and most bride with ivory dresses have the guys in white and it looks just fine. You cant really tell the difference.
Post # 10
My dress is Ivory, but it is closer to a diamond white. We are going to look for VERY light ivory shirts or diamond white shirts. We also went to home depot and got a few of those paint color cards that we thought were the color of my dress and then when I tried on my dress, I chose the one that was the right one and he will take that when he goes to choose a tux and shirt to get the right color :).
Post # 11
I was wondering about this too. When I was at Men’s Wearhouse, the ivory shirts looked very yellow to my eye, more than I remembered my dress being. Fiance just went and placed the order the other day, with the guys in white shirts and Fiance will be wearing an ivory vest. I went into the store to make sure his ivory vest matched my dress swatch, and it did! They had like ten different colored ivory vests lol. But after I left I wondered if I should have compared the shirts to my swatch. Ugggh it’s too complicated.
Post # 12
My dress was very, very ivory. My Darling Husband wore a white shirt and he still looked great next to me, and IMO my dress did not look dingy at all. I think it would be really weird/off for the guys to wear off white/ivory shirts!
Post # 13
I really wish Mens warehouse, etc. would stop telling people this. Ivory bridal and ivory dress shirts are not the same color. There have been numerous threads on the bee over the years and it is not noticeable in pictures. Your dress will not look dingy.
Post # 14
I had the same worries a few weeks ago! If you search ivory vs white or groom ivory in the search field, there are a few other threads that might help. Here are a couple:
ivory vs. white shirt
Does an ivory dress=ivory shirt for the Groom/Groomsmen?
For us, we ultimately ended up going with white because my dress is more off white and the ivory shirts available were quite yellow. We’re also having grey suits, and the ivory didn’t look as nice with the suit. I can’t remember which thread had this comment, but it stuck with me “She should wear what flatters her. He should wear what flatters him.” I know not everyone would agree, but I do.
Post # 15
Our guys went with white shirts, because my dress wasn’t ivory enough for the shirts…
Post # 16
I think it really depends on the shade of ivory for both your dress and the shirts. My dress was such a light ivory that it didn’t look different unless it was against a VERY stark white. But, sometimes ivory is much darker.