Post # 1
I could use some advice! I have known that Maggie Sottero’s Divina was going to be my dress for a while. I saw it on The Knot when I watched the live fashion show and have been head over heels ever since. Its amazing. I can’t imagine another dress that I would love that much. When I first saw it, I feel in love with the blush. I mean its PINK, how cool is that?! Its fun, young and different (and no one in my family would have ever seen anything like it). So I thought that’d be the colour I bought… yesterday I went to another salon where they carried Divina in Ivory. Its gorgeous. Soft, pretty, traditional. So after that I was torn.
Last night my fiance asked about my dress and how the shopping trip went. I told him it went well and I had somet decisions to make regarding shades. He immediately asked if the dress was pink. I played it cool and said, “I don’t have a dress yet, but why would you think that?” Previously I have asked his opinion on pink dresses and he said “whatever makes you happy” then last night he flipped his opinion. He went on a very long rant about how pink dresses are going to be like brown tuxedos in the future. I don’t agree, though it is a fear that I’ll regret my dress colour choice.
I know i’m picking a dress for me NOW and I love both colours, but how can I pick a pink dress after he went on about how much he doesn’t like them? I’m still torn about the colour. My friends and mom are pushing for pink, he likes the more traditional colours. I’m worried that if I pick blush, I’ll regret it and if I pick white I’ll regret NOT getting the pink. *sigh*
What would you do?
If it helps, I’m very fair skin with light blond hair and blue eyes. I’ve tried on both colours and they both suit my colouring (so I’ve been told). As well, everyone in the bridal party will be in black. Classic tuxedos for the men and floor length black gowns for the ‘maids.
Post # 3
I’m kind of torn on my response. I believe you should get whatever it is that you want and makes you feel gorgeous on your wedding day. I also believe that while he’s voicing his dislike for a pink gown, when you’re in that gown on the day with your hair and make up done, he will love you and the dress you’re in- whether it’s ivory, pink, or teal.
With that being said, I think the color will age similar to a brown suit and that’s only because white and ivory gowns will always be the traditional western wedding gown color and anything else will date itself. It’s just up to- and I know that sucks, the decision making is overwhelming for all this crap.
Post # 4
I would go with whatever made me happiest. Yes, it would be nice to have my Fiance agree and I’m pretty sure he thinks it’s crazy that I’m having black on my wedding dress, but if it made me happy then that’s all that matters. In twenty years, every dress that we wear will look dated as fashion evolves. I also don’t think it really matters what dress color you pick because your kids will still point to it and say “you wore THAT?” no matter the shade or type of dress you choose. It does Sound like you’re are in love with the blush so go for it!
Post # 5
Maybe by pink he thinks you mean a bright or striking pink? I may be crazy but I think the blush color is super subtle (but absolutely gorgeous!). You have your heart set on blush- go for it. And I totally agree with @cloverbug:
, no matter what color you get chances are the dress will be dated in 20 years- fashion evolves whether we want it to or not.
Post # 6
I have a very very subtly blush dress and I love it, but from pictures it looks like the Divina is pink. In that case, I say go for ivory because I think it’s too pink, but maybe it’s more subtle in outdoor lighting? Do you have any pictures of yourself in it?
Post # 7
Men are terrible at colours. He probably won’t even realize it’s pink 😉 (seriously, I was wearing sonething clearly purple and Fiance called it pink, while all girls ai asked told him it was purple)
He won’t even think about it being pink while you walk down the aisle!
I personally think the mermaid/fit & flare cut with layered ruffles will date dresses more than a blush colour. If you love it now, DO IT!
Post # 8
Bump, any other thoughts or votes from Bees?
Thanks for all the advice and thoughts so far ladies, I appreciate the input!
Post # 9
I think if the Fiance has thought long enough about pink dresses to have an opinion on them, chances are that he will notice that you are wearing one and that he earlier predicted that you would.
But so what? He didn’t actually say that he didn’t want you to wear one or that you wouldn’t look good in one – only that it might look dated in future. And, In My Humble Opinion, i have to agree with him in that regard – the dress style is so popular right now that I think it will look more dated than other styles.
I would still like to see you in that colour though before saying yay or nay. I have similar colouring to you – blonde, very fair skin, blue eyes – and I know I could not wear that colour. When I look at that blush I see warm, dusky tones, almost like a salmon pink colour. I personally feel it would look better on girls with warmer skin tones/brown eyes, or who have a tan or olive skin.
Post # 10
I have a hunch that because pink dresses are so trendy now, they’ll eventually burn out and it will be like looking back on your mother’s wedding photos and groaning at the puffy sleeves. I’d stick with ivory.
Post # 11
Go with the dress that makes you feel prettiest. And if you’re worried about the pink looking dated, have some photos printed in b&w. Works for brown tuxes too!
Post # 12
I don’t think it was very nice of your Fiance to make such a rant about pink dresses. You’re wearing it, not him, so why can’t you wear what you like? You only live once, and even if pink dresses seem dated later on, so what? You certainly aren’t the only one who likes pink wedding dresses. Even if pink is trendy right now and ends up fading later, it wouldn’t really surprise me if pink dresses do continue to appear here and there for a long time since so many women do like pink.
I ended up getting a wedding dress with a colorful accent. I know a lot of people would think it was a weird choice because it’s not 100% white/ivory, but it’s not about what other people like. I ended up deciding I would prefer to have a dress that is “me” rather than playing it safe and just getting what other people like.
Post # 13
How pink is it? ‘Cos I’ve seen a few pictures of the pink Divina, and my recollection is that it’s really quite pink. I would say yes to a pink gown if it was a really soft, blush, barely-there whisper of a pink. But if it’s powder pink, I would hesitate. It would be a strong statement. I’m a bit more of a traditionalist I think, so I would opt for the ivory.
For those saying that pink would date…I don’t know. I think most of the dresses we love right now will probably date, so in that case…go for whatever makes your heart sing!
Post # 14
No matter what dress you pick, aside from a very simple A-line gown, is going to look dated eventually. That’s not a good reason not to pick what you like now. Yes, brown tuxedos may seem absurd now, but they were a hot new item in the 1970s, and my mom still speaks proudly of how much she was on the cutting edge of style! No regrets
Post # 15
I think it’s actually a dress for both of you to love, and he clearly expressed his preference that it not be pink, and ivory is also the more classic, timeless choice, so I would go with that.
Post # 16
I feel for you! The divina in blush was the first dress I fell in love with! I thought it would be my dress. My Fiance made the same type of comment hinting that he preferred that I wear white or ivory. It nearly brought me to tears! I luckily was able to get over that beautiful blush dress once I tried it on and realized it would be too heavy for our destination wedding. I ultimately chose another dress that is ivory, and I love it! But I can empathize with you…it’s so hard to decide between choosing YOUR favorite vs what you feel your Fiance may love… For many of us that is too a very important factor. Good luck to you, and please let us know what you choose!