(Closed) Jack and Jill Rules?>

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

nope, that’s not right at all. the host pays for the party.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve never heard of this for any bridal shower or jack n’ jill.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@amyddlz:I have never heard of this. Usually the Maid/Matron of Honor and BM’s contribute to throw the party in your honor.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

is a jack and jill the same as a stag and doe? Assuming it is, that seems a little weird. Simply because for us, we’re paying for everything for the party and I would feel really uncomfortable asking someone else to pay for it. Our wedding party is helping us with the party, but they are helping run the games and everything else, not helping financially. It might be easier if you just paid for it, rather than having to deal with her taking money after the fact to avoid any drama.

However, if it is a bridal shower type thing that you are talking about, then I’ve heard that whoever is hosting it should be paying for it and she shouldn’t be taking money away from your gifts.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In my area the wedding party usually plans and puts up the costs for the J n J and the couple takes all the profit.

One friend (the Bride knowing her J n J was coming) did want to help and bought prizes and such, despite being asked not to, just wanted to help a little.

In my opinion, she is putting on a J n J for you and shoudl absorb the cost of putting it on….by taking on the J n J she takes on the cost….

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What is a Jack and Jill?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Fundraising effort/excuse to party usually about 2 months prior to the wedding. Bridal party rents a hall usually. Cheesy games and some really fun ones you have to pay to play which in turn raises money for the couple. Usually pay a ticket price to get in, door prizes, can be done different ways. In the “boonies” in my area they are called Buck N Doe’s for more country types (lol).

We aren’t having one, but it’s quite common in our “circle” to have one!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have never heard of the bridal party taking any of the money. That is one of the responsibilities when your accept being in the bridal party.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think the hosts of the party (whether it’s the bride and groom or the wedding party) should be expected to absorb the cost of the food/drinks/space. That said, a Jack and Jill party shouldn’t be very elaborate so it should be relatively inexpensive.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’d tread carefully here.  a lot of us on the bee don’t live in regions where this is common and don’t like the idea of fundraising for your wedding.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

was not reprimanding you, just wanted to warn you before the masses pounced.  =)

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