(Closed) Jack and Jill

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you think of jack and jill parties
    tacky...why ask other people to pay for your wedding? : (46 votes)
    63 %
    fun! : (18 votes)
    25 %
    eh, whatever : (9 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I didn’t vote because I think I’m confused.  I had always considered a Jack and Jill party as a shower that included men and women together, bringing gifts.  I’m not sure about a party where people are asked to pay for the wedding.  Can you elaborate maybe?

    Post # 4
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    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Agreed, not sure what a Jack and Jill party is.

    Post # 5
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    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t get it either.  Can you please elaborate, OP?  Of course, I’m not a fan of Jack and Jill parties by either definition contemplated thus far.  Asking people to pay for your wedding is tacky as hell and I can’t think of any man who would WANT to attend a bridal shower…

    Post # 7
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    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I also thought that a jack and jill party was a co-ed bridal shower or a dual bachelor/bachelorette party.  Never heard of a jack and jill party where people are asked to pay for the wedding…

    Post # 9
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    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think they are tacky.  You (general “you” not directing it at the OP) should pay for your own wedding and not ask guests to do so.  I do understand these are common in some parts of Canada, but I still think they are tacky.

    Post # 10
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    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ah, ok. Yeah, lezlers nailed itpretty much tacky as hell. But, to be fair, I’ve never been to one! 

    Post # 11
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    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I also thought a jack and jill party was just when men and women are invited to the same party (bridal shower, baby shower, joint bachelor/bachelorette parties etc).  Which I think is an awesome idea, I went to a jack and jill baby shower and had an awesome time, I also wouldn’t have gone if Fiance couldn’t come with me as they are more his friends than mine.

    However, asking guests to buy a ticket to a party or wedding is not ok.  Unless it is actually a benefit or something (not a wedding, birthday or baby related party) and the money goes to a good cause.

    Post # 12
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    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Yeah I’m totally confused here.  We’re having a “jack and jill” for one of our showers….and then having another “bridal shower.”  But at the jack and jill, we’re not asking people to pay for our wedding…..it’s just kind of a late engagement party. 

    Post # 13
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    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m still a little confused as to how the raffle works…

    but in terms of buying a ticket to a party… just to bring another perspective into this… when attending a bachelorette party, each guest already pays their own way (dinner, drinks, etc.) and split the cost of paying for the bachelorette.  Wouldn’t buying a ticket simply be the equivalent of this? just in a more straight-forward manner?

    Post # 14
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    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    In my part of Canada, we have something called a “social”. It’s basically a fundraising party that people host to raise money for things – sports teams, charities… etc. Wedding socials are also super popular. The bridal party and the couple’s parents help out. Tickets are sold (usually $10 or $15), booze is sold, a dj or band plays and there is almost always a silent auction with cool prizes.

    The point is to raise money for the wedding. I can totally see how it would be tacky for most people! However – they are really, really common in my part of the country. We’ve decided not to have one – we will pay for the wedding on our own and we don’t really want to organize a whole other event. But we’ve been getting flack from friends and family who expected one and were looking forward to one.

    I never really thought people would take offence to a party like this until I came to WB! But I understand how it could seem strange.

    Post # 16
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    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    And at certain times of the year – people are going to a “social” every weekend for some different event. They are more popular in rural towns and with younger crowds. (in university I went to lots of these parties instead of the bar – sometimes they are even hosted at a bar)

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