January 2019 POAS – The Infertility Edition! (6+ Months TTC + Other Issues)

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Post # 256
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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1111makeawish :  I hope so! Hopefully my betas rise nicely this time! Now we just need 
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tulipdazey to make it 4/4! 🀞🏻🀞🏻🀞🏻

Post # 257
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Helper bee

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sleepymelis :  Congratulations!!!!! That is one beautiful line. 

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tulipdazey :  Crossing my fingers for you!!!! 

Look at all these BFPs this month!! How wonderful! 

Post # 259
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Buzzing bee

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tulipdazey :  It’s bad. I so want to tell him, but I want to respect his choice to wait for betas. I’ve been trying to intentionally throw him off a bit, so I made a comment yesterday that suggested I wasn’t pregnant and this morning he was pretty sad about it. I feel terrible. I asked him again if I could tell him now and he insisted we wait. Tomorrow can’t come soon enough so we can finally both celebrate together!

Post # 260
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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larissakay :  Aw I feel for your hubby!  He doesn’t want to get his hopes up.  I have no poker face and there is no way I could hide it so kuddos to you for being such a good wife respecting his wishes.  Can’t wait to hear your beta and his reaction!

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Helper bee

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sleepymelis :  Really hoping for a super glue sticky bean!!!!! So happy for you!!!!!!

Post # 264
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I don’t mean this in a bad way at all but it’s so nice to see you ladies get your BFPs after all you’ve been through. Away from this board I only have one friend who took more than one cycle to conceive (conceived 2nd cycle) and these are woman 32 to 40. I’ll be going through IVF hopefully in spring and I feel much more prepared for it now. I don’t look at the monthly TTC threads now and I’m sure some would say it’s because I’m bitter but by this point im beyond caring that it hard to see people join the bee to post that they have got a BFP. I always used to think I’d get pregnant when I wanted to and it’s still hard to understand why it hasn’t happened.

I’m so glad that three of you bees get to join the Oct (?) Babies group as you’ll have also seen so many bees move onto these groups in the time you’ve been TTC. Wishing you all healthy and uneventful pregnancies xx

Post # 265
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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EllyAnne :  I don’t think it has anything to do with bitterness, it’s more to do with self preservation. After such a long time TTC, it feels physically hard to see newb after newb get their BFP and sail into the sunset. Even now, I’m not sure how much I’d have in common with most of the people on the October board. After multiple losses, I’m not going to feel safe for weeks yet. It is nice to have company though. We infertiles have to get our BFP’s in groups, for our sanity’s sake! πŸ˜‰

Post # 266
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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tulipdazey :  rolling over to feb

Post # 267
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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anev :  sorry love 😒

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heartandstars :  
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mrswannabemomma :  thanks ladies! I will take all the well wishes and good-lucks!

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larissakay :  so glad you can finally tell hubby today! You’re such a good wife for waiting, I don’t think I could do it. He’s going to fall off his chair πŸ₯°

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Buzzing bee

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EllyAnne :  It is so hard to see other people get, without much effort, what you want so badly and have worked so hard for. I hear you. Know we’re all rooting for you when you start your IVF cycle!

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anev :  Ugh. Sorry to hear.

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sleepymelis :  I can’t wait! I feel like since he’s made me wait so long, I need to think of a fun way to tell him!

Post # 269
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Hi ladies – struggling today.  haven’t posted here in a while, probably b/c I’m in denial that we’ve been trying for 7 months.  I’m ~8dpo today and I was all ready to test and I just couldn’t do it.  Partly b/c it’s early and partly b/c I started to feel AF symptoms and I’m just not mentally ready for another month of this.  This has been such an unanticiapted emptional rollarcoaster (7 cycles trying, 2 CPs) and every month I convince myself that positive OPKs + great timing MUST mean that I’m pregnant.  I’m 39 so the 7 cycles is meaningful.  

My second CP was last month and my dr told me she’d refer me to a specialist if I wanted but that she didn’t think it was necessary given I carried a baby to (past!) term in 2016.  I was a little too emotional on that call to get the name of the specialist and, since then, I’ve just assumed this will be our month so I havent reached out to my OB.  If AF is on her way and this isn’t our month, what day would I need to see the specialist?  I’m pretty sure it wont happen next month but I’m slowly realizing I might need some intervention.

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Helper bee

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ChiTownBee27 :  So sorry that you’re struggling today. I don’t think you need to go on a specific day – thats more for tests that you’ll have to do. You might want to go towards the end of your cycle though, so you can go for the Day 3 test immediately, if it is ordered. Someone else might have better advice on that front, since I’m new to all this stuff. You’re not alone though <3

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