January infertility board

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Post # 91
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@piscesinsc:  I hope you get some fresh options with the new RE. Embryo adoption is a good idea too, I’ve had it in the back of my mind as something I may have to do. I’m sorry you’re feeling like you won’t come out of this a parent. That’s definitely a difficult mind shift, but I always like to be prepared for any outcome, so I think it’s smart to emotionally prepare for that possibility. I think it makes sense to step away from the boards. We’ll always be here if you want to come back ❤

Post # 92
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

ROLL CALL

Your age/partner’s age: 35/ 31

Baby #: 1

Cycles TTC: 14? (I’ve lost count)

Known fertility issues:  low AMH; fibroids; currently still going through testing

Previous fertility treatment?: n/A

What are you doing this month (transfer, beta, IUI, retrieval)?: historoscopy.  Last month, HSG, blood testing

Key dates (POAS, beta, transfer): none yet

Just for fun: What’s your personality type? (Myers Briggs, enneagram, Buzzfeed quiz, whatever) INTF

 

So I’m officially joining the January board.  We are going through testing and was hoping to conceive on our own in December but didn’t.  I have fibroids and I’m having a historoscopy tomorrow to see if they are impacting fertility.  I’m a bit nervous because my HSG was not fun.  I have a titled uterus it took several tries to get the scope in, although my tubes were open it was also painful. I’m trying to remain positive as I know I’m only beginning the journey but I’m so overwhelmed.  I have so many concerns:

  • I hate that I had to tell work that I’m going through fertility testing but I did tell my boss because my job is demanding and I’ve had a lot of last minute doctors appointments.
  • I just married last year, my husband is younger and I’m terrified that I’m going to prevent him from having a biological child and what that might mean for our otherwise good marriage
  • I’m working on my PhD so overwhelmed by the possibility of adding another stressor [IVF not a baby] to my already stressful situation

Just needed to vent.  Thanks for listening, and good luck to everyone this cycle.

Post # 93
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@beemyself:  good luck on your hysteroscopy! I hope it’s not too painful/uncomfortable. I hate that I had to tell people about my fertility stuff too. It’s so uncomfortable and I hate follow up questions. 

It upsets me that I might not be able to have a child for my husband as well. Although we’re really only at the beginning of our infertility journey, we have talked about what happens if I just can’t have a baby. Luckily, he’s been supportive of that idea too, and we’ll be ok without kids if that’s what is in store for us.

Post # 94
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Bumble bee

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@beemyself:  welcome!  I hope your hysteroscopy goes well and isn’t as painful as your hsg was. Feel free to vent here anytime, we are all experiencing or have experienced the same things you are feeling. It’s so scary not knowing what the future will hold and having so much of it out of your control. It’s also tough when you have to tell people at work because of so many doctor appointments. I’ve gotten some pretty awful unsolicited advice from people who don’t understand (not from work or supervisors), and it’s not fun having to tell people or get the unsolicited advice that puts the blame on us, even if unintentionally. The stress that comes with infertility is awful. I hope the journey isn’t much longer for you.

Post # 95
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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@itsme1987:  Thanks.  My husband and I haven’t spoken about the what ifs.  And it’s not something we thought about talking about pre-marriage.  We discussed finances, in-laws, religion, how many kids we wanted.  But never thought to talk about what happens if one of couldn’t conceive.  His heritage is big on children, I’m hoping we don’t get to the point where I have to ask.  I’m happy you two have spoken about it and are on the same page.  One less thing to stress about!

Post # 98
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Bumble bee

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@DogsAndWine:  oh no!! I hope the biopsy results come back quickly and are negative. Let us know when you hear back! Congratulations on the promotion! That just figures that you have to go into the office the day of your biopsy, ugh! I once had a biopsy on a suspicious mole on my forehead done during work hours and had to go back with a nice bandaid right on my face, got lots of fun questions about that one! I hope your coworkers are more tactful 🙂

Post # 99
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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@DogsAndWine:  so sorry to hear about the mole and the inconvenience of dealing with that at work too. Hope everything is okay and it was just a false alarm.

Question for all you ladies,

So I’ve been on birth control to time my cycle and I overlapped with Lupron for 5 days, I was instructed to stop the birth control 5 days ago and I went in this morning for my ultrasound and blood work and apparently I ovulated at some point through the birth control! And my blood work is consistent with that bc my estrogen and progesterone were elevated. They want me to wait a week and go back in to be rechecked. I am still taking the Lupron and they said I should perhaps get some bleeding in the meantime. Has anyone ever heard of ovulating through birth control????! Now my cycle is delayed but i’m worried about everything down there being all screwed up because apparently the bc didn’t do its job. 

Post # 100
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@Cheekie0077:  oh that sucks!!  Well, birth control only has a 98-99%ish effectiveness rate and you often hear about birth control babies, so people must definitely ovulate through it sometimes.  Especially when they don’t take it at a consistent time every day and all that.  (Not saying that was your issue.)  Shoot, I’m sorry though!  Come ON body!

Post # 101
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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@KittyYogi:  thanks for the response, yea it’s just super frustrating since now everything will get pushed back and also I made sure that I took the BC at the same time every day so that def wasn’t the reason. But I guess i’m just going to have to wait another week and hopefully everything will work out and then I can start. Have you started your FET cycle yet? 

Post # 102
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@DogsAndWine:  ugh I’m sorry about the mole and having to deal with work. I hope everything ended up going ok! FX for a benign mole. Good thing you caught it though. I don’t think I look at my toes very much.

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@Cheekie0077:  ugh that is so annoying. Sorry your body didn’t cooperate with the birth control! 

Post # 103
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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@DogsAndWine:  wishing you good luck with the biopsy and sorry it conflicted with your start time for your new role.  Life! 

Post # 104
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@Cheekie0077:  super frustrating! Every delay is just so so annoying. I hope you can get going soon.

Yes, I’ve been on estrogen for almost a week now and have another monitoring appointment tomorrow. If things look good, I’ll start PIO and do FET next week! It’s been a long 6 months of IVF and 1.5 years of ttc, so I am beyond ready 😀

Post # 105
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

 

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@beemyself:  welcome! I think we have all been there with questioning the whatifs, I feel an intense amount of guilt that I will not be able to have a child when my husband wants one very badly. He hates when I talk about it and doesn’t want me to feel the way I feel but I do. I’ve been on this IVF train for too long and the longer you’re on it the more negative you feel about the potential of it working so I have become pretty pessimistic about it all. I can totally understand your fears. I am also 35 and i’m terrified this isn’t going to work. This board is a great support through all of this which is a silver lining. 

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