Post # 1
Darling Husband works for a company that is going to send him to Japan for 2 weeks in a few weeks. He’s never been off the continent, and I’m really excited for him, but I really want to go too. We had written it off, because tickets are too expensive, and we thought he was only going for a week, but for 2 weeks, it’s totally acceptable for me to go with him. The problem is, we had been planning to go on a big honeymoon trip this year sometime, and hadn’t started saving for it yet. An aunt of mine just offered us her timeshare randomly, and we were going to do that, but even though the room would be free, we’d still have to pay for food and airfare.
We currently have very little in savings, all from wedding gifts (have a saving plan, but haven’t been married long), and it’s *just* enough to cover a plane ticket to Japan. We’re not too worried about savings, but emptying it doesn’t ever seem like a good idea. We could try to borrow it from family, and pay them back in a month (we can do it, this was just really short notice). But then it seems like it would be kinda nonsensical to go on a big honeymoon later this year. But in Japan, we really wouldn’t be spending time together, he’d be working the whole time, but I really want to go. But the honeymoon was important to me too. The plane ticket to Japan would be almost our whole honeymoon budget, but if we wait til next year, we’ll have to pay at least $1500 more for the honeymoon anyway.
Post # 4
If the ticket to Japan for just you is that expensive, I’d just go now. Imagine you dont go with him this time and you still want to go in the future, then you have to pay for his ticket too and hotel, which would all be covered by the company for this trip. I’d do Japan now, enjoy it by myself or whenever he’s free (can he extended the trip to make sure he as at least a few days at the end free to spend exploring with you?) and “honeymoon” later.
Post # 5
I would go with him– and I agree with @pinkshoes about maybe having you both spend a few extra days there afterward?
You’ll save money because his ticket is covered and he’s got to sleep somewhere, so you’ll see him at night!
Post # 6
I agree with pinkshoes as well, but it sounds like you can barely cover the plane ticket to Japan now anyway. Yes, it would save you money to tag along with him on his business trip, but a vacation is not a good excuse to borrow money from relatives OR to empty your savings account.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2012 - Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro
Can you go to Japan now and then downscale your honeymoon later? Either pick a less expensive location for the timeshare or maybe stay somewhere more local to save on plane tickets? That will allow you to rebuild your savings while still spending some quality time together.
I’d definitely tag along to Japan, especially if you really want to go. What a great opportunity.
Post # 8
@yellowshoe: I know, we really shouldn’t borrow for it. More likely, we’d put it on his credit card and pay it off over the next month or two.
He will not be working on the weekends, so more likely, we’d just explore together on the weekends. He’ll be inheriting some money from his grandmother’s estate in a month or two. But our plan was to put it in savings, not to mention, you should never spend money you don’t have yet, because something could always happen. I just keep wanting to think it means we can afford it. -_- If we wait to go on our own, a similar trip would cost at least $5k, and if we’re spending that much money on a trip, it’ll be to Italy.
Also not ashamed to admit this, as much as I do want to go to Japan and eat delicious sushi and random snack-foods, this is maybe 15% me not wanting him to leave for 2 weeks. I don’t have a job or friends here. Lol.
Post # 9
I think spending so much money to tag along on a buisness trip is a waste. As far as I know buisnesses don’t send people over to other countries to vacation, but demand a lot of work. Especialy in Asia where the working hours are long. So basically your hubby’ll be working and you’ll be stuck in one place, and if spouses are not specifically invited you’ll most likely also be having dinner alone too most evenings.
I don’t think this trip would be what you imagined, save the money, and hopefully one day you guys can go there on vacation for real.
Post # 10
I would wait to have a “real” honeymoon. I just worry that if it isn’t the vacation type honeymoon, with the nice resorts, awesome adventures ect, you will be disappointed.
I say this because I moved to Israel with my Dad when I was younger thinking it would be a big vacation. WRONGO. Without the touristy aspect, it’s no vacation at all.
Post # 11
Do you have airline miles? A one way ticket on American (and American partner airlines) to Asia is only 35,000 miles. Ususally if you get a CitiBank AAdvantage credit card, the welcome bonus is at least that many miles, if not more. You have to spend a certain amount in a set # of months (I think it was $4000 in 6 months when we did it). We just used the card for all our everyday purchases and paid it off each month.
Post # 12
@Atalanta: I agree. I think he’ll be spending long hours putting in time for his paid business trip. There is a reason why they are sending him, after all. Even though you’ll have the weekends, I think he’ll be exhausted and it just won’t have the same spirit of an actual “honeymoon”.
I say keep saving your money towards Italy, even if it takes longer. Since you potentially have this estate money, it might help a little.
Post # 14
I am aware he will not be there on vacation. 🙂 I’m not expecting him to be back at a decent hour every night, I had no expectations of eating meals with him, and fully expect he’ll be tired whenever he’s not at work. I’m well aware his hotel room would be just a place for him to sleep, and I’d be roaming around the city all on my own for the majority of (more likely the whole) trip. But the chances I’d ever go if not on a business trip of his are very slim. I have family who have gone on their husbands’ business trips, and it was a good experience for them, even though they weren’t spending time with their husband. Japan wouldn’t be replacing the honeymoon, just make us have to push it back.
@crayfish: No, no airline miles. I don’t think his credit card has them.
Post # 15
If you don’t want to spend time at home without him, because you don’t have many friends there, and don’t want to go out and do things by yourself, I don’t think putting you in the same situation in a foreign country is the solution.
Enjoy your time home alone, treat it like a holiday. Go out do stuff by yourself, watch whatever tv shows you want.
Keep saving for the real honeymoon, and not a trip that will be by yourself most of the time.
Post # 16
@sweetpea87: I think there was confusion for many of us. I was under the impression that if you went to Japan, it would be your serrogate “honeymoon,” so no push-back’s, just NO honeymoon.
If you have the option of doing both, I say why not? You seem to be easily convincing yourself that you want and should have both anyways..