“He recognizes that its not healthy and he says he’s working on it and I can tell he is but idk how much he can do by himself”
Well that’s is good to hear. However, does he say he’s working on it, then he gets all mad over something, apologize and then say he’s working on it? Does it seem like a broken record or can you actually see progress?
I would jounral each “incident” that happens when he gets mad/jealous. Write down what happened, what he said, how it went, what yousaid. I really think this will help you see the progress. You read it 6 months from now and you see that your fights are exactly the same, then you’ve got an uh-oh on your hands.
Would he read a book? I found these on Amazon.com. Get them for free with interlibrary loan. Seriously, he should be putting more effort into this if he wants to succeed at this relationship.
Jealousy – Get Rid Of Your Jealousy, Insecurity And Controlling Attitudes Within 30 Days – For MenFrancisco Bujan(I am not so convinced anything can be fixed in 30 days, but hey, it could be a good read)
Jealousy – How To Deal With It – For MenFrancisco Bujan
Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness Paul A. Hauck
How to Deal with Jealousy: Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness is Vital for a Healthy Marriage or Relationship. Learn How to Control Your Jealousy NowTaylor Timms
The Othello Response: Dealing with Jealousy, Suspicion and Rage in Your RelationshipKenneth C. Ruge and Barry Lenson (Jun 2003)
The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships Sue Patton Thoele and Cynthia Lynn Wall
How to Overcome Jealousy: How to Stop Jealousy Dead in Its Tracks by Rebecca Steel
Love and Jealousy – Hot to Tame the Dragon of JealousyClea Nuss-Troles