Post # 1
I just wanted to sense check something I discussed (quite emotionally) just now with my Fiance. How would your SO react if you told him you are meeting with your male friend tet-a-tet for breakfast over weekend? or lunch? Please share your views.
Post # 3
@SY: My Fiance would say “Okay! Have fun. Wanna grab dinner later?”
Fiance and I have discussed this and he told me he thinks of dinner as a date and thinks it might be a little weird but he said he doesn’t mind breakfast or lunch at all. After further discussion he agreed that sometimes lunch just won’t work and dinner is okay too (as long as it’s not a “romantic” place).
Post # 4
He wouldn’t mind. He wouldn’t (and doesn’t) mind even if I have dinner or drinks with a male friend.
Post # 5
It’d depend on the guy I was meeting up with. If it was the guy I thought I was going to marry in at one point of my life, he’d have an issue with it. If it was my high school best friend (who happens to be male), then he’d be okay with it and would tell me to have a good time.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@SY: He wouldn’t have a problem at all if it is someone he knows. If it is someone he hasn’t met he would be fine but ask questions. I don’t see the problem unless he feels that he has a reason to be jealous … Even so, he should really keep it in check.
Post # 7
“What time are gonna get home? and make sure you bring me something to eat!”
Post # 8
If it were me going out, he’d say “Don’t die and have fun.”
If it were him going out, I’d say “Don’t bring home hookers. Have fun.”
Post # 9
“Ok. Have fun. Be sure not to get lost.”
Darling Husband doesn’t mind when I hang out with my male friends. He trusts me as I trust him.
Post # 11
It would depend on the guy- if it was someone he has heard of before he wouldn’t mind at all! If I said I am going out with some random guy he has never heard of he would probbaly ask a few more questions but would not stop me from going.
Post # 12
@SY: My SO doesn’t care who I have breakfast with. Then…. that’s probably because I don’t keep in contact with single men who are possibly interested in me. I would guess that there is something making your Fiance uncomfortable beyond just the gender of your friend.
Post # 13
My Darling Husband would probably say something like “tell your boyfriend i said hello.”
If he were going out, it’d probably sound like “didn’t you just see your girlfriend yesterday?”
Post # 14
@SY: My boyfriend is a little jealous because I’m in a engineering course and almost all my friends are guys. If I said something like that he probably wouldn’t be happy and would make a “face”, but I would kiss him and snugg him and tell him I love HIM, and he would let it go 😛
Post # 15
thank you ladies for sharing.
My male friend is good old friend who I knew long before I met my Fiance and my friend and I both know there is nothing but friendship. When I casually mentioned my Fiance that amongst my Sunday plans was to meet with my male friend he said he is unhappy if I meet any man tet a tet. he was particularly upset because he told me when we first met that he doesn’t believe in friendship between male and female, to which I replied at that time that many of my friends are male and I am not going to change that as it is who I am and I wil not just cross my previous life, who I am now partly shaped by my friends.
He believes I do things without sharing with him beforehand. We are in different countries at the moment for few months (job related) and I really don’t understand why and when I should let him know of my each decision. Isn’t this a bit obsessive From his side? I do share major plans like travel, holidays, and weekend plans including meeting friends (just happened that I hnew not been seeing my male friends as they were away) but skip others like what’s daily at work (it is either busy or not too busy, detailed conversations just bore me).
He says he trusts me but now I doubt. and he wouldn’t admit he is feeling insecure.
I can see that most of the replies to this post confirm my view that it is absolutely ok to see male friends tet a tet. I am going to have to talk when I travel to see him soon.
Thank you again!
Post # 16
Totally depends on teh guy. I have a ton of guy friends, and regularly hang out w/ a few of them w/o my partner. there is at least one guy he wouldn’t love me hanging out w/ alone. One in particular, he wouldn’t tell me to skip hanging out… but he wouldn’t be pleased. honestly, I get why he’s jealous and unsure. The last time the guy was in town, a group hung out and he seemed okay w/ it.