(Closed) Jealous for no reason, but I can't help it…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your Fiance proposed to you, he was with her for 10 years and didnt propose to her nor are they together. They have a 10 year history and she may have just wanted to catch up. I was in a 14 year relationship and my Fiance knows and we still talk it is never anything sexual. It is usually general questions how are the girls, what am I up too, etc.

My Fiance knows who he is and has met him I have told him when or if he calls and if he wants to meet he comes along me. Ask your Fiance if he minds if you tag along it would make you feel better? If it is innocent on her part she will meet you both again when she is in town if it is not then you will know where she stands and he will too.

Post # 4
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

whoa!!! slow down and take a breath.  Don’t make this about model ex and inferior you.

 

If I were you I would use this as a “teaching/learning moment”  as in…. “hey, Fiance, we haven’t really talked about this…. I’m wondering what your thoughts are on seeing old friends without the other one around?  What are your boundaries?  What do we disclose?  What’s off-limits to you and what do you think is acceptable?”

 

If he wants to know why you ask…. I think you can say that you noticed the post from “ex” and it got you to thinking…….  So, you were just “checking in”.

 

I can tell you it’s NOT about looks or weight or anything.  It’s about love.  And that connection that draws you to someone.  He’s either a cheater or he’s not.  And that has to do with HIM.  Not about you or her.

Post # 5
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1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The girl wrote “guna”…

thats all I needed to see, she’s obviously an idiot 😉

iphone wont let me un-italize

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I know how you feel. I am not the jelous type either, but last summer my FI’s ex-FI sent him a FB message that she was going to be in NY (she lives in Hawaii) and he should come visit her since she missed him. As far as I know they never talk on the phone, so I don’t know why she thought to message him. Plus we live in New Husband, so it would have been a long drive for him to go visit her. He just ignored the message, but I couldn’t help but feel angry that she would ask him to do that.

I would definitely say something to him. Just make sure you focus on your feelings of insecurity and don’t say anything that could come across as you accusing him of anything. I’m sure he will reassure you that you are all he has ever wanted!

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