- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I have posted recently about feeling left out/alone because my group of girlfriends don’t include me as much in outings anymore. I have moved past that. I have tried the make the effort and I am not going to sit here and beg them to hang out with me. I have accepted that maybe its because they are still single/dating and they relate more to eachother, and I get it.
Anyway, out of the group, there is one friend who is my best friend, I tell her everything, and we used to talk everyday, text several times a day to now maybe a few times a week. This is the one friendship I am sad that is drifting apart. I am upset/mad about something that happened yesterday. I had been telling this friend that DH and I are planning a trip to Italy for our 1 year anniversary. DH and I got through talking and said since this is going to be our last big trip for awhile, why don’t we try to do both Ireland and Italy. (DH really wants to go there).
I have been to Ireland and I would love to go back, I went with my best friend 3 years ago, her parents have a house there and go 3-4 times a year. So I told my friend that we are planning on doing Italy and Ireland, particularly the town we stayed in when we went. I needed her advice on how to get from the airport to the town we stayed in. As a kid she went every summer, so she knows her way around. She responded “wow really?” So I said, yea why? And she said, out of all the other places to go to in Ireland, why are you taking him there? And she also threw in well I am going there too this year. I said because I really loved it there, and we had so much fun. And she continued to say but would he like it? So I said to myself, why would I plan to take my DH somewhere he wouldn’t like? We have been together 10 years, I think I would know him by now! She suggested we go to Dublin, and I said but you are the one that told me we shouldn’t go there because its just like one big city and that your town is so much better.
Then I got the balls and said to her that I get the impression your upset that I want to take DH to the town we went to, if not, then my mistake and I am sorry, but the reason I want to take DH there is the same reason you wanted to take me, and I want to share the experience with him.
She responded, its fine you are going, I am jealous because its the Irish folk fesitval…then later sent me another message saying that yes she was mad at first because she thought I was going when her parents were and in that case I would have been mad. <—First of all, I didn’t know her parents would be going in Sept, because her mom is a teacher, so how would she be able to go in the middle of Sept?! But even if I coincidentally went when her parents did, why be mad about it?
Sorry Bees, just venting.
How would you react to this? DH thinks that she is extremely selfish and is acting like a child. He said she doesn’t own the town or Ireland and we don’t need her permission to go.