- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I am registered under another username, but wanted to make sure the friend I’m about to discuss does not know my identity…
I was wanting to know your opinions on the following situation:
I feel like my friend is always trying to have one up on me..she’s competitive over everything..anytime I mention something good that has happened to me, she has to describe something better that has happened to her. Well I was engaged in october, and she has yet to get engaged but is very close. I can tell that this bothers her…and she constantly brings up how she’s going to get married around the same time as me, although she’s not even engaged yet. This doesn’t bother me normally, but ..
Last week I went to a bridal show and she invited herself along. I really didn’t mind but had a bad feeling about it since she always tends to make things about herself one way or another. I had invited my mother, my maid of honor and one of my bridesmaids to come along with me…this friend is not a bridesmaid..but i really had no issues with her coming along.
As soon as we got there , there was a line up. You got a blue sheet if you were a bride and a white sheet if you were not. They asked me if I was a bride.. .obviously I said yes..and received a blue sheet. When it was her turn..her answer completely shocked me…she said she was a bride too!!!
The rest of the night we went around looking at vendors ..and when they asked…who’s the bride to be…she was right along there with me, telling everyone a date she had made up in her head for her wedding day. I tried not to let it upset me… I didn’t show it at all..but inside I was really hurt that she decided to make this evening about herself when it was something I wanted to do with my bridesmaids specifically. I had expected her to come along and support me, but instead, she was right in front of me, filling out ballots for free honeymoons and good deals, etc.
The worst part about it is that there were huge prizes given away , and she was a contender for these prizes since she had a blue sheet. There are brides out there that need some of the prizes a lot sooner than she would..but she didn’t seem to care. She didn’t win anything…but if she had of I’m sure there would have been a lot of people questioning it…especially people that knew her. All night she had people coming up to her asking her when she got engaged (friends of hers) and she jokingly would say….”just trying to get ahead of the game”. We’ve had a very rocky friendship…. and if this were the other way around she would have ignored me for a week.
I was venting to Fiance about it afterwards, and he said he kind of understood where I was coming from but didnt think it was that huge of a deal…my bridesmaid that came along with me was fuming because of it…but she didn’t say a word because I told her to just. let. it . go.
My question to you… is ..would you be upset if a friend tried to make things about herself like this? Or would it just be something that you could blow off easily. Have any of you had similar situations happen to you? I’m not a very confrontational person so I would never tell her that this bothers me.