Post # 1
I know this is going to come out sounding horrible, but I am so jealous of Fiance. I have 2 children, they are 8 and 6. Since they were born I have always been the stay at home parent. When my ex and I divorced I worked for a little while until current Fiance and figured out our groove and she went to work full-time. Since then I have been the SAH parent again. I am coming to realize that this is making me resentful and jealous.
I never thought that I would ever been anything other than a mother. It’s what I have wanted to be since I was little. For the longest time I was okay with this. Something has started to change though the past few months and I am begininng to realize that I want more than sitting at home taking care of the kids all day. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my kids to death, but yeah..
I wish it were as easy as deciding to go back to work or school, but it isn’t. Since, as a family unit, we have decided that home schooling is the best option for our kids, that is what we do. Our public schools are over crowded and crappy and we can not afford private school. Not to mention, I’ve applied to dozens of jobs and don’t even get called for interviews since I have so many holes in my job history.
Blah. Idk what the whole point of this post is, I guess just to vent. It really struck a chord with me today when I went into FI’s work (she waits tables because she’s also in college) and she was standing around chatting with other people. I got so jealous because I don’t have relationships outside of her, our room mate and my kids. I want to have adult conversation! lol, ugh. Anyway, if you’ve read this far, thanks. I feel a little better just getting it out.
Post # 3
@lovelyMsValentine: I get it, you can be in one place and crave the pleasures of another….are there any Stay-At-Home Mom groups you can join? Playdats and luncheons, socialization for both you and the kids are always a good thing….and if you’re the crafty type and have the time available…you can always open an online store on Etsy and make a little extra money making things you love in your free time.
Post # 4
I would definitely join some home-schooler groups! So you and your kids can both get some serious socializing time in!
Post # 5
There are a lot of mom groups and home schooling groups, but none of them seem to fit what we need. Most mom groups are for moms with younger kids and the home schooling ones aren’t super welcome to our two mom family, as most of them have some religious affiliation.
I’m not so worried about my kids socializing, lol. Every day we are out somewhere. We go to parks, the library, the pool; they Skype regularly with my younger siblings their ages, play dates with family, etc. I think it’s more so of me feeling like I don’t have an identity outside of being a mom. I feel so lost and I don’t have peers or colleagues to communicate with or the opportunity to feel like I am doing something with my life. I feel like I’ve been swallowed with my role as a Stay-At-Home Mom and idk how to climb out of this hole.
Post # 6
@lovelyMsValentine: …you join a bookclub, or take an art class, find an adult language course nearby….even Stay-At-Home Mom moms get a break, and its important that you take your time away from the family…because having an identity and experience outside of our homes and primary unit is paramount to being a successful and happy person.