Post # 1
at least a little bit. I love her to death. I really do and I am genuinely happy for her and her SO. I can’t wait to attend her wedding.
I am just really jealous with how people we both know have treated me vs her through the whole process.
She is marrying a guy people at university don’t know well and is not from here. However, I happen to be marrying the hearthrob that all the mean girls liked but he never fell for because they were well…..bitches.
For the past two years I’ve been bullied by these girls and in dating FH it only got worse. When these people are in town or still at school and my wedding is mentioned (I am getting married a month before my roommate) they laugh and snicker or just ignore me entirely though I try to be polite or even ask how they are doing. They have spread rumors to ruin my reputation and have caused me to become depressed all through last year.
I cut out a lot of ‘friends’ or people who associate with these people over the past year. What hurts right now (and I try to ignore it) is that my roomie is receiving so much support from these people. My other roommates raised money for her honeymoon but did nothing for me, knowing FH and I cannot afford one, either. It’s been all about her the past months we’ve lived together. She is coming to my wedding and is excited and happy for us…however I didn’t even get an RSVP for the other girls we live with that raised so much support and money for my roomate’s honeymoon.
I know I’ll get over it. I hate feeling this way. I’ve been criticized so much for getting married by people at school that I don’t even post a countdown although it’s 3 weeks away….. and it just hurts to know she posts about her wedding almost every day with support and kind comments.
I’m trying to cling to people who ARE happy for me but it’s so hard.
Especially with money lately. FH and I have turned down the heat and cut back on food to save for the wedding (we’re still under 5k as it is). No honeymoon.
I feel so bad about this. Especially when people ask about the honeymoon (including FH’s parents) who were supposed to give us money for one. No one understands we are broke, no we can’t even afford gas to visit.
I wish I had more support here at university but I don’t. The people who are happiest for me are my professors. Sorry to write this long sob story…. I’m sure I’ll get over it later. Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
*Hug* That’s really all I can say. Well, I can also sympathize on the no honeymoon…immediately! That’s what I keep telling myself. We’ll go on one EVENTUALLY, and so will you guys. 🙂
Be as happy as can be, go ahead and post your countdown (delete everyone who is nasty) and make them deal with it. If they can’t be adults, they can’t be involved.
I do think it’s kind of crappy that your own roommates are more into hers, but alas you’re right, not much you can do. And the low budget I can sympathize with too for sure. Ours is “supposed” to be just under 8K and it’s really difficult.
Hope you feel better soon! XO
Post # 4
Wow, how long ago did your “friends” graduate high school?
Do not feel bad! Go ahead and post your countdown. Post whatever you want because you are going to marry someone who loves you…if these mean girls are so upset by your wedding/marriage then I really pity them for their shallow petty lives. Honestly, they need to put on their big girl undies.
I think you are handling this with grace (much better than I would have acted).
I’m not having a honeymoon for now (FI has to go to work and school the day after the civil ceremony…the cons of being a college bride). Have you considered a mini moon using Living Social or Groupon? I always see some great little getaways on both sites and they seem pretty inexpensive.
Post # 5
Wow these girl “friends” of your sound really shallow, I think your doing the right thing by gradually cutting ties with them. They just must be sincerely jealous of you/unhappy in their own lives to treat you in this way.
Just remember, you are more of a woman than they could ever be, and that’s why they are envious. You have an Fiance who is soon to be your husband, and as you said, he’s not with anyone else as they were b*tches. I firmly believe in karma too >:-)
Post # 6
Were not doing a honeymoon either, eventually yes.. but not right after.
I understand being upset about the pack of ‘girls’ (note I say girls and not women) but in all honesty, you don’t need support from people who act like that. People usually are rude or act out negative towards others are trying to put other down to raise themselves.. since they feel horrible about who they are and what they dont have. Jealousy and insecurity is damn ugly lol and they sound full of both.
To me it sounds like you have a big heart and sadly thats why it hurting you more (I’m the same way). Be happy you’re not going to have those people there on your wedding day or in your life at all. You’re hadnling it better than I would have (I’m more passive aggressive) lol.
Where are you getting married?? (Now I want to hear the details lol)
Post # 7
Thanks for the thoughts/encouragement! These girls remind me so much of the mean girls… the movie… that is. We used to be friends, years ago. Then they all decided to change and be ‘popular’ and sacrifice and backstab in the process. It’s really sad and I am sorry they are so lonely and mean to want to lash out like this. They are not on my friends list at all! Unfortunately, the comments and criticism I receive in class when my profs mention it to me, etc in front of them (not knowing these people’s true colors at all). I deal with this every day and it sucks quite frankly.
I’m getting married at an art’s center on the 30th of this month. I cannot wait 🙂 to be with my FH for good and to be rid of his family at least for a while. And to come home to him every night.
I’m so nervous, though! Time is flying and I feel I haven’t quite comprehended how important this is since I’m so busy.
Post # 8
Hugs also! I know you posted on the thread I started earlier, but your more detailed post makes me so mad for you. This is pure jealousy and a disgusting display of it at that. You are marrying the guy all the girls wanted (lucky you!) and they can’t take it. I know it’s hard to separate your feelings from this, I struggled with it also, but you need to. As someone on the outside of the situation you’re going through, it’s easy to see they are jealous.
Focus on the people that ARE happy for you. Ignore everyone else. Not rudely, just in your mind quietly. You are soooo close to your wedding day and no matter what drama these people try to drudge up, you’re marrying the man of their dreams.
If you need any words of encouragement leading up to the wedding, please feel free to PM me anytime. I’ve been there and I would love to help out!
Post # 9
@SimplyChic11: Are your “friends” 5 years old? Because they’re acting like a bunch of children. Scuze my french, but fuck em’ all.
I have no tolerance for people like that. I know this is easier said than done, but my advice to you would be to shut these people out of your life and don’t give them the time of day. When it stops bothering you, it stops being fun for them. Your happiness is the ultimate revenge. I hope things get better for you.