(Closed) Jealous of short engagement weddings

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wish we had done a short engagement.  We got engaged in May 2009 and won’t be married until March.  Originally we were waiting until we were both out of school and to give us more time to save money.  But he ended up having to extend his schooling one more semester and some money fell through for different reasons.  We ended up planning a wedding for March starting in August.  It frustrates me so much to know how much shorter our engagement could have been had we just known that we needed to do it smaller (and like our smaller wedding too) plus that it’s not as bad as we thought to plan the wedding with him in school.  Our engagement could have been a year shorter.  And we’ve had three or four couples get engaged and married in the time we’ve been engaged. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My engagement will be 7 and a half months when all is said and done and I wish it was a couple months shorter.  Having it short makes decision making a lot easier (there’s not a lot of time to go back and forth on things, you have to make a decision and move on to the next thing) and frankly, it doesn’t take that long to plan a wedding, in my opinion.

The only good thing about having my engagement as long as it is would be the ability to save up for it.  We’re paying for the vast majority of the wedding ourselves, so unfortunately we need the time we have to be able to save up.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sometimes I wish we had a shorter engagement (ours will be about 20 months), but at the same time I think it’s working out for the best.  I was complaining to my fiance yesterday that we are getting married during football season and we should have picked an earlier date.  He pointed out that our venue, which we LOVE, was all booked up for August 2011 when we visited (in early JUNE 2010).  My mom’s favorite photographer was already booked for our date when I emailed her (THIRTEEN months before our date).  Apparently people around here are CRAZY with the early booking.

I’m torn between being glad we have so much time and I can be a giant slacker and just wanting to get things done and be married already.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Mine was about 9 months and I thought it was the perfect amount of time. We had never really talked about a wedding before we got engaged and I wasn’t the type of girl that knew everything that I wanted in a wedding either. So I needed a little bit of time in order to get things done. It worked for us 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Our engagement will be about 5 1/2 months total.

I think it’ll work out fine as far as planning. I already have most of the major things decided on. If we were doing much more elaborate things I think the 5 months would be too short, but since we’re going quite simple it’s really about perfect.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

i’m having a long engagement. when we first got engaged, i said “no way” to April because i just didnt want to wait that long.  but it really turned out to be the ideal time to get  married for a destination wedding (cost and weather wise).  now that i am 3 months away, i realize i have loved being engaged and am going to miss it! all the anticipation and planning is so much for me!  so i guess in the end i was okay with it, but i started off feeling like you.

ETA: I got engaged in Sept. 2009, so thats a one year and 7 months engagement! eek, just saying it makes me feel its been too long, lol.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We got engaged in October 2009 and will be getting married in July 2011, so that puts us at a 21 month engagement. Sometimes I wish we had a shorter engagement, only because we would be married already. But planning wise, the longer engagement has worked out because we’ve gotten things done and been relaxed about it for the most part. Also, I can’t believe how fast it’s gone and that we’ll be married in 6 months!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

1 year 7 months is a long engagement!

My fiance proposed sept 2010 and we had set the date for Sept 4 2011. However, because it’s an “inauspicious period” religiously, we have to move the date! now i’m in a dilemma as to when to have it, my fiance is really upset that we have to change it and is in favour of sooner than later..so it would be October since our hall is all booked up before that OR next year…another 8 months…so I would be engaged for almost 2 years in that case! What should I do?

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our engagement will be 16 months and I think it’s the perfect amount of time. The first 7 months have flown by and I’m sure the next 9 will too. I’m just enjoying looking forward to it. If we had a short engagement it would be over and done with in a matter of a few months and that’s just not for me.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mine was 9 mos which I thought was perfect – I really put off planning for 2 mos (because of the holidays) so I had about 7 total.

It was nice to have time to collect ideas and search for good prices but I was really happy when I reached that point of no turning back (invitations sent, vendors paid) because then I didn’t have to stress about any more decisions.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We got engaged about a month ago and our date is next May. So we will be having a total of 17month engagement. Seemed too long for me at first but now that it’s “Next Year” the time seems perfect!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Mine is 11 months. Being a procrastinator, I am now glad that i still have 3 months left. Also, while planning I often hear that certain vendors will be most likely booked out so and so many months in advance, that I even started wondering how someone can pull of a wedding in 6 months or less.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well we got engaged this past NYE and wont be getting married so i enve those with a one year engagement. We thought about doing it in the spring but since we have a caouple of large expenses comming up (my best friends wedding and a trip to vegas) it would be smarter to wait so we could have cash left in our savings after the wedding. Im ok with it bc i have a great winter wedding theme, but i would love to be his wife much sooner 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We got engaged December 2010 and are planning on getting married March 2012. I wish it was sooner… but the long engagement will help us to afford the wedding.

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