Jealous Stepmother…

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m a big fan of telling people the truth.  “Stepmom-in-law: While I understand that you are frustrated with some things that have happened in the past, I can no longer be involved with this discussion as it is negative against my husband.  I support my husband 100%, and your opinions about him and his father are none of my business.  I no longer wish to be a part of it.  Please refrain from discussing this with me further”.  And then ignore her if she continues.

Post # 3
3665 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I would address the comments next time she makes one, something along the lines of “I’m sorry you’re feeling that way, you should talk to *her husbands name* about it”. If she continues to make comments, something along the lines of “These conversations are making me uncomfortable, I don’t have any suggestions to help you solve it/it puts me in an awkward sport so please keep me out of it”. She’s being completely inappropriate and should NOT be making these types of comments to ANYONE (except her husband. 

Post # 4
1891 posts
Buzzing bee

I would take a 100% different approach to her. Sounds like she shit talks her own husband A LOT. Just record it. Record her shit talking about your husband, her husband, and the other siblings. Then send that recording to his father. She wants to talk badly about everyone in the family? Well maybe they should all hear what she has to say then! I would show her husband exactly the type of person she is. 

Another option would be, invite her and your husbands dad over for dinner. ( Still record her talking shit so you have it on hand) Then you both have a calm talk with the step mom and dad about her comments. Point out that it is hurtful and that you are having a hard time understanding where her anger comes from. Confront her with the FACT that a father seeing his children, taking them out to dinner, having a relationship with them is NORMAL. and that him getting gifts for his grandkids is also normal. Essentially call out her behavior in front of her husband and watch her try to come up with an explanation of why her husband shouldn’t be doing what she hates. If you get push back, or she says she never says that stuff you PLAY THE TAPE. 

If you don’t wanna do any of those things or call her out on it infront of her husband then its easy. Stop taking her phone calls!! not that hard! Be busy, say you cant chat. You are in control of if you listen to her or not. 

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors