- 9 years ago
@Treasure43: I wrote the OP. I promise!! 🙂 I can dramatize events and exaggerate because I am imaginative and tend to inflate details. Allow me to explain:
“I am not able to go anywhere alone (grocery store, sister’s house, walk, mall, etc) without him throwing a HUGE temper tantrum, waterworks and all, that leave me giving up and just staying home or bringing him with. I cannot have a conversation with someone, be it telephone, internet or in person without his “supervising”. He literally hovers over my shoulder, head even with mine, and reads what friends say via chat, text, etc. It is beyond irritating to me.”
CLARIFICATION: My sister recently moved back into town and we were all going to help her unpack, but I ended up changing my mind and wanting to go alone to avoid bringing the baby, since it didn’t seem he would be very entertained over there and would mostly be getting in the way. My boyfriend reacted confused and frustrated by my sudden change of heart when he was ready to head out the door and expecting to help that night. He got a bit emotional because he is sensitive and I was rather intent on suddenly going alone, telling him he would not be joining me and that he should just stay and watch the baby. I think he thought I was actually being a bit mean and that it was unfair that he suddenly couldn’t go, which admittedly is a bit true. I was in a mood and needed to be alone and I shouldn’t have blamed him for being hurt by this.
My boyfriend had a work friend who now works with me at nights and pops up chats with me every single night. This had my boyfriend feeling neglected after a week and so he messaged his friend if he would cut the conversation short so that he could spend the rest of the evening with me. This was the ONLY time this happened and I actually found out by seeing the message pop up when he logged onto his fb. Oops. Not such a horrible thing to do when his friend was chatting with me every night for a week straight.
These were the only TWO situations in which applicable behavior occured. That is what I meant by “generalizing” and “exaggerating”, unintentionally out of frustration.
“He worries that guys flirt or can’t control themselves around me so well and sometimes admits to not trusting them 100%.”
CLARIFICATION: Strange things have happened in the past with me and exes’ friends throwing themselves on me, in addition to people drugging my beverages, and so on and so forth. I have told my boyfriend of these traumatic experiences and he is looking out. He has a right to know what other guys, who are supposed to be his friends, are saying to me in private, nightly conversations. That’s all I meant.