- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I just need a place to vent and maybe get some advice! 🙂
I am 24 years old and have been engaged for 3 years, with my Fiance for 7 years. After I announced my engagement, my sister DECIDED she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I never asked her and after she decided it, I couldn’t say no. I really didn’t have a better prospective for this anyway.
My sister is 22 and has been with a guy off and on for the past 3 years. He’s treated her pretty bad in the past. Everything minus the physical abuse, so it could be worse I suppose.
Here’s where my anger and jealousy comes in. I decided to wait a little to start my wedding planning. There was no rush on things for me. I however, did start REALLY planning November of last year. I told my family and friends and everyone was really excited. I sent out the invites in March and asked people to RSVP my June 1st. I really want these reply cards back to keep. My MOH/sister will NOT send hers back no matter how many times I ask.
This is besides the point. About two weeks ago my sister announced she was pregnant. She says they have been planning it. I felt like she was trying to take away from my wedding when I heard this. It may be stupid to feel, but my weddings a destination wedding planned for November. It’s just not practical to decide to get pregnant for this time. She always says how broke they are. The guy’s a loser who is almost always on unemployment (no offense to those on unemployment, but he seems to SEEK it out and I’ve known him unemployed more then I’ve known him EMPLOYED). The only thing bigger than a wedding is a baby. I’ve never wanted to be or tried to be the center of attention except for this ONE time.
It took a day or two, but I got over it. I figured, I’ll be an aunt and I can be happy about that.
Today, I found out that they are now actively searching for churches in the area to get married. Again, it sounds harsh, but I’m appaulled. I’ve never felt so hurt. I feel like she has now taken ALL the spot light from me as they are going to try to put this together very soon it seems. She doesn’t even tell me this stuff. I have to read it on facebook.
The part that is really hurting me is the fact that SHE decided she was my Maid/Matron of Honor. Since that point she hasn’t asked me ONCE about the wedding (she hasn’t even sent the reply card back). I’ve asked her if we could get together to talk about things and she never gets back to me. I asked her to go out dress shopping with me one time and she complained about everything… the dresses I picked for her, the fact that it was taking a while and how she had to go do other things.
I don’t expect her to wait until I’m ready to go about her life, but I wish she could have just planned this out better. It wasn’t until I sent my invites out that she decided she wanted to get pregnant, married and that she wasn’t going to help me out at all with my wedding, but instead plan her own.
I want to be supportive because she is my sister and some of the family has been harsh about her pregnancy, but I really don’t even want to talk to her.
I don’t know if I can talk to her. She’s got “pregnancy hormones” going on and she is absolutely horrible at times.